Absent Fathers Chapter 13 Summary

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Chapters 13 & 14
Chapter 13 discusses the three kinds of dads that there are. First, is the absent dad the dad who is not there at all. This dad has nothing to do with his kids and is not there physically for his kids the amount of these dads continues to grow. Second, is the superficial relationship where the dad is physically there but not emotionally to handle the more challenging issues. Dads like this focus on investing in the easy things that ultimately don’t matter. When this dad passes away it leaves the kids asking, “Who was my father?” or “Did he care about me?” The third kind of dad is the strategic dad, he plans his actions and words out. His intentional actions are calculated in order to form a relationship to where his son, in

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