Offenders will continue their manipulation through abject apology, and victims will do exactly what they are conditioned to do, by appearing to accept that apology. Victims will feel safe enough to even ask questions, much less articulate their pain; after all, telling their abuser how he has inflicted pain in the past is tantamount to detailing how pain can be inflicted in the future.In those kinds of cases, a great deal of individual work must take place with each of the parties so that each can learn how to move confidently within relationships based on openness, courage, generosity, listening and trust rather than the anger, fear, subterfuge, jealousy, manipulation and violence they have known.
