If couples fail to recognize the negative energy that is brought into a marriage through the lack of good communication, they can damage their relationship. The four patterns that put couples at the most risk are escalation, invalidation, withdrawal and avoidance, and negative interpretation. Each one of these patterns can be avoided with the right tools to effectively get your thoughts and feelings across. According to Markman, Stanley, and Blumberg (2010), John Gottman determines, “that how couples begin talks about issues determines 96 percent of the subsequent course of the conversation” (p. 59). What a person says and what is actually heard can have a negative impact on a relationship. The five types of filters that affect couples as they communicate with each other are distractions, emotional states, beliefs and expectations, differences in style, and self-protection. Markman et al. (2010) states that, “filters are the leading cause of miscommunication in relationships. By understanding your filters - and counteracting them - you can immediately improve your communication”
If couples fail to recognize the negative energy that is brought into a marriage through the lack of good communication, they can damage their relationship. The four patterns that put couples at the most risk are escalation, invalidation, withdrawal and avoidance, and negative interpretation. Each one of these patterns can be avoided with the right tools to effectively get your thoughts and feelings across. According to Markman, Stanley, and Blumberg (2010), John Gottman determines, “that how couples begin talks about issues determines 96 percent of the subsequent course of the conversation” (p. 59). What a person says and what is actually heard can have a negative impact on a relationship. The five types of filters that affect couples as they communicate with each other are distractions, emotional states, beliefs and expectations, differences in style, and self-protection. Markman et al. (2010) states that, “filters are the leading cause of miscommunication in relationships. By understanding your filters - and counteracting them - you can immediately improve your communication”