We live in a world where we are made to believe that we are the masters of our own destiny, and that what we do affects outcomes in our lives, self Empowering Quotes such as “you are only as good as yourself, “be the best you can be” or my personal favourite “you are the author of your own life story” rule over our subconscious, completely omitting exterior influences in our lives, so why do things turn out different to us authors plan and/or expectations to answer this question we must deploy sociological imagination which is “a concept used by the American sociologist C. Wright Mills to describe the ability to “think yourself away from the familiar routines of everyday life” and look at them from an entirely new perspective” namely taking
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This would be the women I would call wife the mother of my future children the person that would make me happy in ways not possible by others the intent to marry her was instant, I even got to talk to her a few times before I had to make the trip back to Canada she liked me and I liked her, naturally no one knew of this and I was too afraid to tell my parents namely my father the man that I had hoped to be one day because if I were to marry her culture dictated that I would the need the blessing off my parents and her parents and that my parents had to formally express interest in marriage on my behalf and talk to her parents. But regardless, I ended up leaking this information to my brother who then leaked to my mother and by way of my father, my mother to my surprise was overjoyed but no response from my father I knew he knew and 2 days later I was summoned to his room for a “talk” his words to me were, “Do you find the life of someone’s daughter, someone’s sister a play thing? Do you even understand what marriage entails, you have no education, no proper means of providing for her, and you change your mind more than you breath in a minute, I don’t want to hear of this again, if you are serious about this still in 8 months if you still love her then we shall talk and I may or may not consider talking to her …show more content…
Finally, about a month into the on-and-off conversations I got their blessing and I was formally engaged to my future wife but the marriage still would not happen for another 2 years as I had to continue my studies and as did her so the engagement was no more than a promise between my parents and hers and should something change in the course of 2 years neither me or my wife had a say if my parents or hers decided to end the engagement. I would have to accept and respect their decision and move on but thankfully none of that transpired and I got married to her. It was magical and to me that moment was to last forever but the real world knocked on my door and after marrying her I had to return to the US to finish my studies and I had to leave her behind because she was a citizen of Pakistan and I of Canada but I was studying in the US so the whole immigration scenario was complicated after getting the proper documentation I filed for her immigration waiting daily for a “government” to deem her worthy to come live with me, I had to wait a year but in August 2015 she was truly mine and I
This would be the women I would call wife the mother of my future children the person that would make me happy in ways not possible by others the intent to marry her was instant, I even got to talk to her a few times before I had to make the trip back to Canada she liked me and I liked her, naturally no one knew of this and I was too afraid to tell my parents namely my father the man that I had hoped to be one day because if I were to marry her culture dictated that I would the need the blessing off my parents and her parents and that my parents had to formally express interest in marriage on my behalf and talk to her parents. But regardless, I ended up leaking this information to my brother who then leaked to my mother and by way of my father, my mother to my surprise was overjoyed but no response from my father I knew he knew and 2 days later I was summoned to his room for a “talk” his words to me were, “Do you find the life of someone’s daughter, someone’s sister a play thing? Do you even understand what marriage entails, you have no education, no proper means of providing for her, and you change your mind more than you breath in a minute, I don’t want to hear of this again, if you are serious about this still in 8 months if you still love her then we shall talk and I may or may not consider talking to her …show more content…
Finally, about a month into the on-and-off conversations I got their blessing and I was formally engaged to my future wife but the marriage still would not happen for another 2 years as I had to continue my studies and as did her so the engagement was no more than a promise between my parents and hers and should something change in the course of 2 years neither me or my wife had a say if my parents or hers decided to end the engagement. I would have to accept and respect their decision and move on but thankfully none of that transpired and I got married to her. It was magical and to me that moment was to last forever but the real world knocked on my door and after marrying her I had to return to the US to finish my studies and I had to leave her behind because she was a citizen of Pakistan and I of Canada but I was studying in the US so the whole immigration scenario was complicated after getting the proper documentation I filed for her immigration waiting daily for a “government” to deem her worthy to come live with me, I had to wait a year but in August 2015 she was truly mine and I