Triangulation is the involvement of a third person in relationship conflict (Mendenhall et al, 2016). When individuals start complaining about their partners to family members and friends, family and friends start liking the partner less. It becomes difficult to support a loved one’s relationship when only complaints are ever heard. Triangulation is not healthy in relationships. Instead of involving a third party in relationship conflicts, it is much more practical and efficient to work out conflict as a couple. This way, family and friends are able to continue to keep thinking highly of romantic partners. I asked the interviewees how often they triangulated. Two individuals claimed to not have triangulated very much while still married. However, after the marriage dissolved, they began to complain to others much more often. I am not certain that these instances count as triangulation as the relationship had already ended. I can see how complaining about an old partner to others immediately after the relationship ends could potentially help individuals to heal from the hurt of the breakup, especially in the case of a divorce. After a divorce, life changes in every aspect imaginable. It is understandable that recently divorced individuals would desire to talk to their family and friends about their struggles. One individual stated that she complained about her relationship to her friends nearly every time that she talked to her friends. This is obviously a very unhealthy habit and could have easily been a contributing factor to the divorce. It is likely that her friends stopped respecting her husband and no longer supported the relationship itself. Sometimes, it is easier to justify ending a relationship if friends no longer support the relationship. After all, friends often know what is right for us regarding relationships than we ourselves know (Mendenhall et al, 2016). One individual told me that she
Triangulation is the involvement of a third person in relationship conflict (Mendenhall et al, 2016). When individuals start complaining about their partners to family members and friends, family and friends start liking the partner less. It becomes difficult to support a loved one’s relationship when only complaints are ever heard. Triangulation is not healthy in relationships. Instead of involving a third party in relationship conflicts, it is much more practical and efficient to work out conflict as a couple. This way, family and friends are able to continue to keep thinking highly of romantic partners. I asked the interviewees how often they triangulated. Two individuals claimed to not have triangulated very much while still married. However, after the marriage dissolved, they began to complain to others much more often. I am not certain that these instances count as triangulation as the relationship had already ended. I can see how complaining about an old partner to others immediately after the relationship ends could potentially help individuals to heal from the hurt of the breakup, especially in the case of a divorce. After a divorce, life changes in every aspect imaginable. It is understandable that recently divorced individuals would desire to talk to their family and friends about their struggles. One individual stated that she complained about her relationship to her friends nearly every time that she talked to her friends. This is obviously a very unhealthy habit and could have easily been a contributing factor to the divorce. It is likely that her friends stopped respecting her husband and no longer supported the relationship itself. Sometimes, it is easier to justify ending a relationship if friends no longer support the relationship. After all, friends often know what is right for us regarding relationships than we ourselves know (Mendenhall et al, 2016). One individual told me that she