When one thinks of a diamond, what comes to mind is that they are very precious, multifaceted, and they are rarely flawless which, can all be allegorically representative of individual marriages, as each one is comprised of unique factors, contributing to the brilliance or dullness of a union. The field of psychology definitely has some legitimate insight into certain aspects of relationships and marriage, such as interpersonal skills, but the true essence of such a union resides in God’s Word and stands firmly on a Biblical foundation. God Himself purposefully crafted man and woman not only physically, but also emotionally for the companionship of one another, as they trek through the journey of life. There is not a more intimate scenario
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Interestingly, some couples might continue to view their resources and time as solely their own, thus displaying a self-centered mentality, and only providing care with the hope of obtaining something in return. Kenrick, Neuberg, & Cialdini (2015) described such a relationship as being equity rule based, and also proposed an opposing approach referred to as the need-based rule, in which “you give what your partner needs, without counting” (p. 267). This latter mode of thinking was encouraged by Kenrick et al., and coincides with Christian principles as well. In comparison, Thomas (1998-2016) conveyed a pertinent story of when he witnessed another person gently attend to his pregnant wife, and how the experience was quite humbling, as this other person generously showed care for his wife (Make Me… section). This was exemplary in showing how over time one can take their spouse for granted, and served as a reminder that one should care for their other half as they did during the courting phase. Therefore, both Kenrick et al. and Thomas relayed concepts of selfless behavior and how this is obviously more beneficial within in a marriage, as this type of adjoining of lives represents a sharing of one’s life. The Bible clearly reiterated this sentiment, “’and the two shall …show more content…
Kenrick, Neuberg, & Cialdini (2015) expressed how one’s temperament can play a role within a couples’ interactions, and how emotional stability can be central to the length of a marriage (p. 270). How true this can be, as one’s moods can dictate their style of communicating with their spouse which, might not always be received as loving. Thomas (1998-2016) exemplified this notion by discussing how it is important to look inward when frustrations arise with a spouse, and that a holy perspective can alter one’s reaction (Journey… section). I found all of the author’s viewpoints pertinent, and in consensus with one another regarding communication in that, inconsiderate and rash words can be toxic to the intimacy of a marriage. God’s Word was also very concise with respect to the etiquette of communication, as it stated “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” Proverbs 15:1
Interestingly, some couples might continue to view their resources and time as solely their own, thus displaying a self-centered mentality, and only providing care with the hope of obtaining something in return. Kenrick, Neuberg, & Cialdini (2015) described such a relationship as being equity rule based, and also proposed an opposing approach referred to as the need-based rule, in which “you give what your partner needs, without counting” (p. 267). This latter mode of thinking was encouraged by Kenrick et al., and coincides with Christian principles as well. In comparison, Thomas (1998-2016) conveyed a pertinent story of when he witnessed another person gently attend to his pregnant wife, and how the experience was quite humbling, as this other person generously showed care for his wife (Make Me… section). This was exemplary in showing how over time one can take their spouse for granted, and served as a reminder that one should care for their other half as they did during the courting phase. Therefore, both Kenrick et al. and Thomas relayed concepts of selfless behavior and how this is obviously more beneficial within in a marriage, as this type of adjoining of lives represents a sharing of one’s life. The Bible clearly reiterated this sentiment, “’and the two shall …show more content…
Kenrick, Neuberg, & Cialdini (2015) expressed how one’s temperament can play a role within a couples’ interactions, and how emotional stability can be central to the length of a marriage (p. 270). How true this can be, as one’s moods can dictate their style of communicating with their spouse which, might not always be received as loving. Thomas (1998-2016) exemplified this notion by discussing how it is important to look inward when frustrations arise with a spouse, and that a holy perspective can alter one’s reaction (Journey… section). I found all of the author’s viewpoints pertinent, and in consensus with one another regarding communication in that, inconsiderate and rash words can be toxic to the intimacy of a marriage. God’s Word was also very concise with respect to the etiquette of communication, as it stated “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” Proverbs 15:1