A Perfect Balance Analysis

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Is There a Correct Way To Live Life?
How do Gil Fronsdal’s “A Perfect Balance,” Dzigar Kongtrul’s “Old Relationships, New Possibilities,” and Eckhart Tolle’s “You Are Not Your Mind” relate with the way we treat the people we love? In what ways do the articles agree and disagree on meeting enlightenment? What do they say about how people should go about life to conquer our goals?
Focusing too much on family and friends is a person’s natural instinct, especially when all people do is try and please others. Today, people need to focus on who and what is more important to living a successful and drama free life. Fronsdal, Kongtrul and Tolle all have different views on ways we treat the people we love. Fronsdal states his opinion about treating
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Fronsdal believes that people shouldn’t be attached to the people or things we love, which would lead to focusing on others rather than ourselves, while Tolle makes the effort to making everything count. When people conquer their goals, Fronsdal believes people should follow Equanimity and the Eight Worldly Winds. In Kongtrul’s article, “Old Relationships, New Possibilities,” she connects the way people meet enlightenment while conquering their goals. Kongtrul and Fronsdal both believe unhealthy relationships can cause setbacks in a person's’ life and that only focusing on themselves is the best choice. Kongrtrul focuses on the disadvantages of Lenchak throughout her article as well. In Eckhart Tolle’s article, he disagrees on the ways of meeting enlightenment and states that is only for Buddhas. “ In that state, even my desire to become free or enlightened is just another craving for fulfillment or completion in the future. So don’t seek to become free of desire or “achieve” enlightenment. Become present. Be there as the observer of the mind” (Tolle 10). He speaks in a negative tone and explains that people don’t use their mind at all, and if they did, they would have a better chance of conquering their goals. For example, he thinks humans are meaningless. He disagrees with Kongtrul and Fronsdal on the way people treat others, Instead of setting time aside for yourself, he thinks people should pay close attention to anything that are important to them. These three articles focus on these the topics while informing the reader how he/she

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