The Importance Of Writing A Eulogy

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Being asked to write a eulogy for a loved one who’s passed can seem completely overwhelming. The feelings that are triggered by the death of someone close rids the mind of any real clarity and makes collecting and sharing our thoughts and memories challenging, to say the very least.
While the task seems daunting, there are steps you can take to ensure you give a memorable and fitting tribute.
Recognize the Honor
The very first thing to do is take a breath and recognize the honor that has been bestowed you, though right now it doesn’t feel that way. Right now you feel nervous that your emotions are going to be on full display and that you may end up not saying what you intended.
No one is expecting perfection so don’t obsess about making mistakes.
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But for most people this will prove incredibly challenging.
Speaking in front of a group of people is nerve-racking anyway, add in all of your emotions and you may find yourself losing focus and getting far off your topic with no real way to ‘recover.’
When you write a eulogy you are basically preparing your speech, which will allow you to convey your emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them. Think of writing out your thoughts ahead of time as a way to ensure your ability to express everything you want to in exactly the way you want to.
Steps to Writing a Touching and Memorable Eulogy
When you are finally ready to start writing, find a quiet spot, take a deep breath, and follow these steps:
Determine the Length
Generally speaking, eulogies are between five and ten minutes long, but if you’re unsure, speak with the person who is organizing the service for guidance.
Things to Include
You will want to start by giving a brief introduction of who you are and what your relationship was to the

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