Some time ago, Vera and I had a conversation about identity. We were catching up after some time of not seeing each other and she asked me what I thought of a friend that we both knew. Curious, I asked her what she meant by “what I thought of said friend”. I wasn’t sure if she was trying to dig up some juice or if she encountered a certain situation with said friend and needed my verification for the judgement she had formed on her.
“No, I mean like, when someone asks you if you know L. What would you say?” Vera replied.
“I guess I’d say she’s… nice?”
“Yeah, you see? Anyone can be nice. I can be nice, you can be nice. But what else are we besides nice? If someone asks me what I thought of Kheng, I’d say oh he’s such a joker. Or like Richard, …show more content…
We were talking about how we have different groups of friends that we could gel pretty well with. I’m gonna go way back to high school on this one. I had my Dudes and Dudettes who weren’t studious nor cared that much about school. We’d skip class to go to the nearest 7-11 cos we thought it was cool. I had my Back Crew, who were witty and sarcastic as hell. It took me awhile and few embarrassing situations to pick up their sarcasm. Their idea of fun was tricking teachers into believing whatever they were saying was true cos they were so witty. Then there was Trees who were on the nerdier side but didn’t mind looking like an idiot when playing basketball or Frisbee. These were the three main groups that I hung out with towards the end of my high school times. As much as I was my comfortable self in the three groups, the people in the different groups might not necessarily get along well with each other. As the person in the middle of these different groups of identities, what does that make me? Am I a different person when I hang out with different people? I didn’t think so. However I do think that if each group were to be asked to describe me, there will probably be different answers. Dudes and Dudettes would probably call me a smarty for hanging out with Trees, Back Crew would think I was one of the tamer ones among my Chinese “gangster” Dudettes. Trees probably thought I was a …show more content…
It was pretty hilarious at that time. Of course, the conclusion of this was that we don’t just fit into one box.
So I gave a deeper thought to this and tried to find a few constant characteristics of myself that I could be described with with one word, and you should too if you would like to on your next post.
I am easy-going (quoted by Vera), trustworthy (Richard), earth-loving/eco-friendly/”vegetarian” (Kampung MASA), great listener (roommate). To name a few that others had said about me in between conversations that we’ve had. So just think about it, if your friend had to describe you to someone, what would they most likely
“No, I mean like, when someone asks you if you know L. What would you say?” Vera replied.
“I guess I’d say she’s… nice?”
“Yeah, you see? Anyone can be nice. I can be nice, you can be nice. But what else are we besides nice? If someone asks me what I thought of Kheng, I’d say oh he’s such a joker. Or like Richard, …show more content…
We were talking about how we have different groups of friends that we could gel pretty well with. I’m gonna go way back to high school on this one. I had my Dudes and Dudettes who weren’t studious nor cared that much about school. We’d skip class to go to the nearest 7-11 cos we thought it was cool. I had my Back Crew, who were witty and sarcastic as hell. It took me awhile and few embarrassing situations to pick up their sarcasm. Their idea of fun was tricking teachers into believing whatever they were saying was true cos they were so witty. Then there was Trees who were on the nerdier side but didn’t mind looking like an idiot when playing basketball or Frisbee. These were the three main groups that I hung out with towards the end of my high school times. As much as I was my comfortable self in the three groups, the people in the different groups might not necessarily get along well with each other. As the person in the middle of these different groups of identities, what does that make me? Am I a different person when I hang out with different people? I didn’t think so. However I do think that if each group were to be asked to describe me, there will probably be different answers. Dudes and Dudettes would probably call me a smarty for hanging out with Trees, Back Crew would think I was one of the tamer ones among my Chinese “gangster” Dudettes. Trees probably thought I was a …show more content…
It was pretty hilarious at that time. Of course, the conclusion of this was that we don’t just fit into one box.
So I gave a deeper thought to this and tried to find a few constant characteristics of myself that I could be described with with one word, and you should too if you would like to on your next post.
I am easy-going (quoted by Vera), trustworthy (Richard), earth-loving/eco-friendly/”vegetarian” (Kampung MASA), great listener (roommate). To name a few that others had said about me in between conversations that we’ve had. So just think about it, if your friend had to describe you to someone, what would they most likely