Understand what the other person has gone through, listening carefully not only to what is said but how it is said. 3. Acknowledge that the person is hurting and admit when you have been offensive. 4. Touch the other person gently. 5. Ask for forgiveness. Appendix H: Goals in Marriage Less than three percent of married couples have set goals for their marriage. Goals are vital, for unless you have something in mind that you want to work toward or achieve, you will not get very far. What goals do you have for your marriage? What do you want it to reflect? What do you want from your marriage? List eight goals for your marriage on the goal wheel below. Write one goal in each of eight spaces. Then on the next page write a goal that you would like to see your fiancé achieve within three to five years. Remember, a goal should be reasonable, realistic, attainable, and have a time limit.
[pic] 1. Place and asterisk* by six of the goals that you feel are the most important. Then rank them in order of importance. 2. Place a 0 by two of the goals that you would be willing to forgo if absolutely necessary. 3. Place a $ by the ones that cost money. 4. Place a P by the ones you learned from your