Make sure a psychologist who specialises in personality disorders is involved from the start. The children must trust this person enough to tell them about everything that happens at the narcissistic parent’s house. Do not think that you are protecting the children be telling them that this parent loves them and means well. In the long run, this will do a lot of damage, as they will then believe they are deserving of such abuse. The psychologist must train them to see the patterns of abuse, and also to be aware that this parent will lie to pit them against each other. If there is more than one child, it can be a positive if they stand together and not believe what the NPD parent said about them behind their back.
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If the abuse is violent, you can obviously not wait, but in that case, it should be easier to prove the abuse in court. Also keep in mind that if you move away, the children might be forced to spend full holidays with this parent, far away from you.
Shower the children with love, take them to visit loving grandparents or other family and friends, make sure they have plenty examples of healthy families, parents with unconditional love and children who are not afraid of a parent. Talk about their feelings, about their peers’ feelings, teach them to be honest and thoughtful, and get them a pet (if possible) so they can love and cuddle it and look after it - they learn a lot about love and caring in this way.
As they grow older, they must research NPD in more detail. By seeing this parent as someone with a disorder, it becomes easier not to hate and resent this parent, they will know that the abuse is not deserved, they will feel less scared and intimidated, and they will learn how to avoid confrontation (to some extent). The right psychologist or therapist makes a big difference, even if they just touch base every few
The courts would not prevent …show more content…
If the abuse is violent, you can obviously not wait, but in that case, it should be easier to prove the abuse in court. Also keep in mind that if you move away, the children might be forced to spend full holidays with this parent, far away from you.
Shower the children with love, take them to visit loving grandparents or other family and friends, make sure they have plenty examples of healthy families, parents with unconditional love and children who are not afraid of a parent. Talk about their feelings, about their peers’ feelings, teach them to be honest and thoughtful, and get them a pet (if possible) so they can love and cuddle it and look after it - they learn a lot about love and caring in this way.
As they grow older, they must research NPD in more detail. By seeing this parent as someone with a disorder, it becomes easier not to hate and resent this parent, they will know that the abuse is not deserved, they will feel less scared and intimidated, and they will learn how to avoid confrontation (to some extent). The right psychologist or therapist makes a big difference, even if they just touch base every few