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47 Cards in this Set
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Failure event
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violations of understandings between people in a relationship
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reproach
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message that a failure event has occured
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account
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response to a reproach
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examples of accounts
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apologies
excuses justifications denials absence of an account |
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The dark side of interpersonal relationships
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There are 8:
Deception, Deception by omission, Deception by commission, communication that hurt feelings, obsessive relational intrusion, stalking, jealousy, relational violence. |
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Deception by omission (Concealment)
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intentionally holding back some of the information another person has requested or that you are expected to share.
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deception by commisision
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deliberate presentation of false information
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Types of deceptions by commission.
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white lies, exaggeration (embellishment), and baldface lies.
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white lies
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slight degree of falsification that has a minimal consequences
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exaggeration
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"stretching the truth"
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baldface lie
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outright falsification of information intended to deceive the listener
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Reasons for deception
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to gain resources
to avoid harm or loss of resources to protect one's self image for entertainment to protect another person's resources, self image or safety |
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Three categories indentified by vangelisti and crumley of reactions to messages that hurt.
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active verbal responses, acquiescent responses and invulnerable responses
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active verbal responses
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reactive statements made in response to a hurtful message.
(counterattacks, self defense statements, sarcastic comments, demands for explanations) |
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acquiescent responses
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crying, conceding, or apologizing in response to a hurtful message
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invulnerable response
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ignoring, laughing, or being silent in response to a hurtful message
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Obsessive relational intrusion
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repeated invasion of a person's privacy by a stranger or acquaintance who desires or assumes a close relationship
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examples of ORI
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trying to get some other person to disclose, offering unwanted gifts, notes, calls, arranging coincidental meetings, expressing desire for physical contact
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stalking
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involves repeated unwelcome intrusions that create concern for personal safety and fear in the target.
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Difference between stocking and ORI
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usually annoying and frustrating compared to being instilled fear.
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Jealousy
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the reaction to a threat of losing a valued relationship
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Steve Duck
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Developed a model to show stages in the ending of a relationship
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Provocation of the ending of a relationship
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partner reaches some threshold of dissatisfaction that prompts him or her to consider ending the relationship
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Phase 1 of the ending of a relationship
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intrapsychic phase
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intrapsychic phase
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when an individual engages in an internal evaluation of the partner
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Examples of intrapsychic phase
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focus on partners behavior
assess adequacy of partners role performance evaluate negative aspects of relationship assess costs of withdrawal assess alternative relationships |
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Second phase of ending relationship
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dyadic phase
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dyadic phase
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when individual discusses termination with the partner
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examples dyadic phase
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confront partner with thoughts and concerns
engage relationship talks assess relationship jointly assess cost of termination jointly decide whether to repair, reconcile, or terminate |
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Phase 3 of relationship termination
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Social Phase
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Examples of Social Phase
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Negotiate post dissolution state with partner
initiate gossip/discussion in social network create face saving accounts, stories, blame to tell other people (Call intervention) |
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Social Phase
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members of the social network around both parties are informed of and become involved in the termination process
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Final phase relationship termination
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Grave dressing phase
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Grave dressing phase
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when the partners generate public explanations and move past the relationships
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How relationships end
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Fading away, sudden death, incrementalism
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fading away
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relationship dissolves slowly as intimacy declines.
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sudden death
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relationship ends abruptly, usually in response to some precipitating event
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incrementalism
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systemic progression of a relationship through each of the de-escalation stages
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Indirect termination strategies
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withdrawal, pseudo de-escalation, cost escalation
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withdrawal
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reducing the amount of contact without any explanation
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pseudo de-escalation
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claiming a desire for less intimacy, when you really want out
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cost escalation
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increasing relational cost to encourage the other to end the relationship
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Direct Termination Strategies
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Negative identity management, justification, de-escalation, positive tone
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Negative identity management
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directly stating a desire to end the relationship without concern for the other persons feelings
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justification
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directly stating a desire to end relationship with an explanation of the reasons
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de-escalation
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directly stating a desire to lower the level of intimacy or move toward termination
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positive tone
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directly stating a desire to end relationship while affirming the other person's value
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