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52 Cards in this Set
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The roots of our identity and sense of self were established in ____ - in relationships with parents and other family members. |
childhood |
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As adults we are more likely to feel worthy and lovable and can trust others if we experienced the following as babies and children: |
We felt loved, valued, accepted, and respected.
Adults responded to our needs in appropriate ways.
Adults gave us the freedom to play, explore, and develop a sense of being separate individuals. |
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Successful relationships require: |
Positive self esteem
Strong sense of self
Willingness to give of oneself -Share ideas, feelings, time, and needs
Healthy attachments formed in childhood
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Characteristics of strong relationships: |
Companionship, respect, acceptance, concern for other's wellbeing, trust, loyalty, mutuality, reciprocity |
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___ is one of the most basic and profound human emotions. It is a powerful force in all relationships. |
love |
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What does love do? |
draw people together |
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What does sex provide in a relationship? |
passion, pleasure, and intensity |
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What does commitment provide in a relationship? |
Reflects responsibility, reliability, and faithfulness |
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___ and ___ become central to enduring intimate relationships. |
love and commitment |
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What is infatuation? |
An idealizing obsessive attraction, characterized by a high degree of physical arousal |
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What are some challenges in relationships? |
Honesty and openness Unequal or premature commitment Unrealistic expectations Competitiveness Balance of time together and apart Jealousy Supportiveness |
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What is jealousy? |
The angry, painful response to a partner's real, imagined, or likely involvement with a third person |
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What is supportiveness? |
The ability to ask for and give support |
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What are some characteristics of unhealthy relationships? |
Abuse (physical and/or emotional) Codependency Lack of love and respect Place little value on time spent together Unhealthy communication styles (criticism, contempt, withdrawal) |
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Ending a relationship: |
Usually painful and difficult Give the relationships a fair chance Be fair and honest Avoid trying to make your partner feel responsible Be tactful and compassionate If you are the rejected person, take time to resolve your anger and pain Recognize the value of the experience (learn more about your needs, preferences, values, strengths, and weaknesses |
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The key to developing any type of intimate relationships is ____. |
good communication |
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Healthy communication skills: |
Eye contact Frequent nodding Focused attention Close proximity Asking relevant questions Using "I" statements Self disclosure (revealing personal information such as feelings, hopes, disappointments, etc.) Listening (trying to fully understand another person's story and less time judging, evaluating, blaming, advising, etc.) Feedback (constructive response to another's self-disclosure) |
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Nonverbal communication: |
Tone of voice Facial expressions Eye contact Gestures Appearance Posture Sounds Closeness Body contact |
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As much as ____% of communication is non-verbal. |
65% |
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Conflict resolution strategies: |
Clarify the issue Listen carefully to each other Determine how/if both can get what they need/want Negotiate changes Be willing to compromise Solidify agreements verbally or in writing Review and consider adjustments if necessary |
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Resolution requires ___. |
trust |
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People usually choose partners who are similar in many characteristics: |
Geographic area in which they live Ethnic and socioeconomic background Educational level Lifestyle Physical attractiveness |
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Attraction begins with ____, but as intimacy develops, basic ___ and ___ take precedence. |
physical appearance values aspirations |
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___ between partners increase the chances of a successful relationship. When partners have ___, tolerance and communication skills are essential. |
similarities differences |
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Traditional dating pattern: |
Casual dating evolves into exclusive dating, engagement, and marriage |
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___ adult Americans have tried using an online dating service. |
40 million |
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Advantages to online dating? |
Allows partners to communicate in a relaxed manner and share information and feelings that might not be shared face to face.
Allows partners to find compatibility before developing a physical relationship.
Can increase a person's chance of finding a good match. |
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What are drawbacks to online dating? |
Misrepresent themselves Dangerous |
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What is cohabitation? |
Living together in a sexual relationship without being married |
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Factors in accepting cohabitation? |
Greater tolerance of premarital sex, increased availability of contraceptives, the growing tendency to marry at older ages, and a larger pool of single and unmarried people. |
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What are advantages to cohabitation? |
Opportunity to develop companionship, greater intimacy, and a satisfying sex life, freedom from social expectations and obligations of marriage |
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What are disadvantages to cohabitation? |
Lack of legal protection and benefits Family pressure to get married Cohabitation does not necessarily lead to happier or longer-lasting marriages |
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Cohabiting couples have a ___% chance of marrying after three years together. |
51 |
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What is sexual orientation? |
A consistent pattern of emotional and sexual attraction based on biological sex; it exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality through bisexuality to exclusive homosexuality. |
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Same sex partnerships tend to be more ____ (equal) and less organized around traditional gender roles. |
egalitarian |
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Why is there an increasing number of adults who have never been married? |
Singlehood has become a more acceptable option, marriage is being delayed, financial independence takes longer to achieve, cohabitation is more acceptable, not all gays and lesbians are able to marry, and divorce rates are high. |
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Advantages to being single: |
More personal and career opportunities without interference from family concerns Greater variety in sexual partners More freedom and control in making life choices |
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Disadvantages to being single: |
Loneliness and lack of companionship Economic hardships Discrimination and pressure to get married |
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Today people marry for ___ and ___ reasons rather than for ____ or ____ reasons. |
personal and emotional practical or economical |
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Primary benefits and functions of marriage: |
Affection Personal affirmation Companionship Sexual fulfillment Emotional growth A setting to raise children Providing for the future Positive effects on health |
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Best predictors of a happy marriage: |
Realistic expectations Acceptance of the other's personality Good communication skills Effective ways of resolving conflict Agreement on religious/ethical issues An egalitarian role relationship A good balance of individual and joint interests and leisure activities Commitment |
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Process of divorce: |
Emotional separation Physical separation |
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Divorce is one of the greatest ___ producing events. |
stress |
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Recovery from divorce takes ___ years and involves construction of a post divorce identity. |
1-3 years |
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The family life cycle begins with ___; the second stage begins with ____. |
marriage parenthood |
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Marital satisfaction often ___ after a child is born. |
declines |
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Four general styles of parenting: |
Authoritarian are high demandingness and low responsiveness
Permissive or indulgent parents are low in demandingness and low in responsiveness
Authoritative are high in both demandingness and responsiveness (most beneficial)
Uninvolved parents are low in both demandingness and responsiveness |
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Why is there an increasing number of single parent families? |
Divorces and teenage pregnancies |
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About ___% of all children live with only one parent. |
27% |
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In 2011, about ___% of all black children were living with single parents, as were ___% of Hispanic children. |
55% 29% |
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___ are the primary problem for single mothers. |
Economic difficulties |
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What are qualities of strong families? |
Family routines and rituals (dinnertime, bedtime, household chores, Sunday activities, birthday and holiday celebrations) Commitment for one another Appreciation for one another Communication Time spent together Spiritual wellness Successful strategies for coping with stress, crisis, and conflict Knowing when to seek professional help |
