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What are somethings counseling is not?
- it is not a cure for all problems
- not giving advice
- not assuming you know the problem
- not asking a series of "pat" questions
- not being judgmental
- not assuming responsibility for the problem
- not rescuing
- not feeling sorry for someone
What counseling is
- It is listening.
- It is helping people solve problems.
- It is trust.
- It is self-sacrifice.
- It is sharing information.
- It is confidentiality.
- It is encouragement and support.
- It is being real/human.
- It is dealing with the present.
- It is understanding.
- It is empathy.
What does counseling have to do with trust?
you need to be who you say you are. Do things to show that you can be trustworthy
How is counseling sharing information?
sometimes you have to give them some information about you
When would you need to break confidentiality?
in cases of suicide and if they are going to hurt someone else.
Why is it so important to help people solve their own problems rather than solving it for them?
You do not need to take the responsibility of solving people’s problems, if you do not then they will call you and expect you to answer all their problems. You need to teach them how to solve their own problems so that they can solve their problems on their own.
why should we be real with people?
People want you to be what they see. If we act like we are not human/I’m different. People don’t know what’s going on in your life. They just see what the public sees and think man I want to be like that.
what is the importance of dealing with the present
You can talk about yesterday and the problems that happened. But you cannot get anywhere unless you talk about today.
what is the difference between empathy or sympathy
sympathy is where “I feel sorry” when you express sympathy you have to put yourself in their shoes. But empathy you would say you must feel so bad.
what is biblical/christian counseling not?
Just counseling done by a Christian.
Just quoting the Bible.
Just preaching to someone.
Just conversion.
What is biblical/christian counseling?
- A Christian doing counseling.
- Holding to certain assumptions about God, man, sin, the world, etc.
- Putting Christ at the center of the relationship.
- Consistent with God’s Revelation.
Christian counseling is based on what two assumptions?
- scriptural foundation of God's word
- sound psychological principles
what is hermeneutics?
how you interpret the Bible
Jesus at Jacob's well John 4
- recognized the needs of other people
- established rapport with the Samaritan woman in a very simple way
- Dealt with the rejection and sarcasm at his sincere request.
- Illustrated so well how to deal with the problem of transference.
- Shifted the subject of the conversation to her personal life because he wanted to point out a spiritual need in her life. (16-19)
- Took a case history of the Samaritan woman. (v. 29)
- Demonstrated great patience in working with the Samaritan woman.
what is rapport?
relationship that is acceptable
what is transference?
You put a feeling you have for a few on a larger group. Ex: saying that an entire high school are greasers or preps. This is what is going on in this situation. You have to be thoughtful of transference of feelings and behaviors.
Jesus on the road to Emmaus
- Established rapport with these disciples (v. 17).
- Began with an open ended question (v. 17).
- Spent much time listening to these disciples (v. 18-24).
- Confronted the two disciples with their failure to understand the will of God (v.25).
- Shared a period of fellowship with these disciples ( v. 29,30).
- Taught them the scriptures (v. 27).
- Terminated the relationship (v. 31).
does confrontational have to be aggressive?
No, You can confront someone without being accusatory or aggressive. You can tell the what you think and what you feel.
Jesus at Bethany
- He explained what was happening to the confused disciples
- He let Martha express her feelings and confusion
- He reassured her in a calm manner and instilled hope
- He pointed her to the Christ
- He let Mary express her feelings, i.e. anger (v. 32).
- He did not stop people from grieving, but expressed his own sorrow ( v. 33-35).
- He calmly bore the hostility of the saddened memories (v. 37-38).
Jesus as a grief counselor
- Jesus talked.
- Jesus cried.
- Jesus felt and expressed sorrow.
- Jesus experienced physical symptoms of grief.
- Jesus surrendered.
-Jesus forgave others.
-Jesus accepted hostile feelings.
- Jesus continued to work.
- Jesus offered hope.
- Jesus adjusted to reality.
Theodore Wedel's parable of a crude life-saving station
Theodore Wedel’s parable of a crude life saving station with just a hut and one boat.
Devoted watchful members with no thought of themselves.
Many lives saved.
Some became unhappy with the crude hut and one boat.
They enlarged and decorated the building and made it a comfortable meeting place.

Fewer members were interested in life saving.
Life savers were hired and eventually brought in many cold, wet, dirty, sick, and half drowned people.
This activity interrupted the social life of the “club” and there was a split in the club.
The life savers were told that if they wanted to continue their work, they should move.
There are a number of exclusive clubs along that shore where many shipwrecks occur but most of the people drown.
What does Wedel's parable tell us?
The thing that matters is the deep needs of person who hurt, hope, curse, pray, and hunger for meaning in life, and thirst for significant relationships.
People are shipwrecked in the storms of life, broken on the hidden reefs of anxiety, guilt, and lack of integrity.
Counseling can help.
Renewal through reconciliation
– Helping to heal our estrangement from ourselves and our families, from other church members, from those outside the church, and from an enlivening, growing relationship with God.
What is the most difficult thing to achieve in our time?
depth relationships
Statement of a minister
“My life is characterized by a plethora of contacts and a poverty of relationships.”
To know a person in depth is to know their
“pain and potential, their emptiness or fullness, their unique blend of hope and despair.”
three rich resources for pastoral counseling that are provided by
Fresh developments in theology and pastoral care.
Fresh insights from the human sciences.
Innovative techniques from the psychotherapeutic disciplines.
pastoral care
the broad, inclusive ministry of mutual growth and healing within a congregation.
Pastoral counseling
a reparative function needed when the growth of persons is seriously jeopardized or blocked by a crisis

- is the shared ministry of the preacher and the congregation
Pastoral psychotherapy
needed for long term, reconstructive therapeutic methods are utilized when growth is deeply diminished by need-depriving early life experiences or by multiple crisis in adult life.
A holistic liberation-growth model has what types of counseling?
Pastoral psychotherapy, Pastoral counseling, pastoral care
What is the overarching goal of the holistic liberation-growth model?
is to liberate, empower, and nurture wholeness centered in the Spirit.
What are its core concerns?
Spiritual formation and ethical guidance
Seeks to utilize and integrate both
both psychological and theological insights.
Circumstances which constitute the occasions in which most caring occurs include
crises and losses in the lives of individuals and families and social crises and transitions in the wider society.
Must enable people to increase
the constructiveness of their behavior as well as their feelings, attitudes and values.
The Unifying Goal - wholeness - Howard Clinebell
Empower growth toward wholeness” in six interdependent aspects of life (p.31).
- Enliven one’s mind.
- Revitalizing one’s body.
- Renewing and enriching one’s intimate relationships.
- Deepening one’s relationship with nature and the biosphere.
- Growth in relation to the significant institutions in one’s life.
- Deepening and vitalizing one’s relationship with God.