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1 - Specificity/Chunking Down
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Developing the Movie Mind
SPECIFICALLY - When, where, how, with who, in what way does this occur? Note: People who think in specific details most of the time will rarely think globally. |
Get the VAKOG, screen of their mind.
Inside Movie or Observer? Sound Track playing? Movie close or far? Color and clarity. What feeling are they having about the movie? What intentions, decisions, understandings, thinking patterns etc. is the person using and how are these influencing things? "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." How much makes up this evaluation of too much? (It costs five dollars too much) So if it only costs four dollars, would that be too much? What about four dollars and one penny? Would that be too much? By lowering the price, I can then count on you purchasing the product? |
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2 - Reality Strategy Sequence
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"When she looks at me and narrows her eyes, I feel judged and put down."
"Eyes narrowing" E.B. ---> "feeling judged and put down." I.S. To elicit this reframing pattern, use the strategy elicitatiion questions: A) How do you represent that? B) How will you know if and when it does not hold true? C) What comes first, next, how do you have each piece coded representationally? D) Are you absolutely sure you don't have that in this other format? |
Goes hand in hand with Chunk Down, get specifics of what and how it happens for each step. Then what's next? Visual cue, evaluation, further evaluation, kinesthetic response, E.B. etc.
"I can't buy your product because it costs too much." I'm interested in how you think about "the price." Do you picture it? What does it look like? What was that you say? You say you tell yourself "it's just too much?" In what tone does that voice speak those words? Like the Voice of God huh? Not like the voice of Elmer Fudd? Now do you feel sure you don't hear that in a questioning voice? Or better still, a lustful voice?... |
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3 - Reframe E.B. by Redefining/Re-labeling it.
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To elicit this pattern and to bring out this conversational pattern so that you can shift the old E.B. as equaling I.S. to other meanings, ask yourself the following questions. Let these operate in your mind as flexibility expansion questions.
1) What other terms, labels and meanings could I give that could reduce, alter or transform the meaning of this External Behavior? 2) In what contexts and situations does this make sense or not? 3) If you did see it this way, what would you see/have instead? 4) In what situations do I apply these meanings? 5) In what contexts does this content make sense? |
Changing the meaning of a behavior or event changes the associated responses to it.
"I can't buy your product because it costs too much." Is price really the most critical issue? What about the quality of the services that your money purchases. May I show you how our product will actually save you money in the long term? |
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4 - Reframe the I.S. by Redefining/Re-labeling it.
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Connect the I.S. to some other behavior.
A) What the internal state I.S. really means is... B) What the internal state I.S. really causes is... |
We can specify other behaviors that would more appropriately fit as the I.S. description. In doing this we redefine or reframe the I.S. of the equation that governs the meaning of the belief.
"I can't buy your product because it costs too much." What really costs too much would be to try to operate without this product because then you would not have an effective method of tracking where your prime business is coming from, wouldn't you? |
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5-6 - Reflexively Apply E.B. or I.S. to Self or Listener
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#5 To elicit this pattern, explore the possibility of applying it to yourself, or to the other, or to others, in some way:
1) How would this belief system fit if I applied it back to this speaker or to myself as listener? 2) In what way can I switch the referent around to see if it equally applies? #6 To elicit, keep asking the application question: 1) What would happen if I applied the criterion or meaning to its source (the speaker)? 2) How can I change the reference to reality test the validity of this idea or belief? 3) Would the speaker like to have this same idea applied to him or her? |
This works because of our need for congruency, If beliefs and behaviors do not match then something has to, and will, give.
When we apply action of verb to another person or object we invite the listener to check out his or her belief map. "Your being late means you don't care." It's a little late to tell me that, don't you think? Lately, I have been wondering if you care. "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." That sounds like a pretty expensive idea to buy. If you don't buy a product that will greatly benefit your business that will be impoverishing. |
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7 - Counter Example Framing
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To elicit, this pattern, use one of the following four choices: Reality Testing - Find what doesn't fit the mold.
1. Invert Belief: "I can't handle criticism" So criticism can't handle you, right? 2- Make it into a Universal statement or question: So you can never X under any circumstance because you always Y? 3 - Explore exceptions: Has there ever been a time when you did not experience X as meaning equal to Y? 4- Explore other reverses: Have you ever thought you were going to feel a certain way if something happened but when that something did not happen you STILL felt that way? |
Behind Counter-Examples is the frame people frequently or always demonstrate in their behavior the very thing they claim they cannot do.
The very things that we affirm and absolutely believe we can and can't do...we frequently demonstrate in our affirmations and denials. "I have no particular expectations." Wow! How did you develop that expectation about yourself? Undeniable evidence to the contrary. |
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7A - Reversing Presuppositions
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In what way does this behavior (E.B.) actually mean or cause the opposite of the internal state (I.S.)?
When I think about this E.B. , suppose I imagine that it actually means and leads to the complete reverse of what I have always thought? Reverses things in our cinema of the mind and causes new perspectives. Go meta - "Totally and completely serious about relaxing." Are you serious enough about relaxing? Ask, What If? |
To an workaholic who needs to rest because of illness. In what way is your resting actually harder work than if you were just to do what you have always done?
"Product too much." How might the cost of not having this product actually cause you to believe that you cannot afford not to buy it. Oh, whether you take it or not you will get charged either way, either by the $60 a month or the cost of not being able to promote your business as effectively as this. (rest hand on brochure) |
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Perceptual Positions (Frequently used with Counter-Example Framing)
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First Position - Viewing from our own eyes.
Second Position - Conceptually stepping into the viewpoint of the person whom we are speaking to. Third Position - Meta, taking a spectator's point of view to see ourselves and other. Fourth position - The system position, the we, seeing an entire system. Fifth Position - the Universe, God, or spiritual perspective |
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Cartesian Logic Questions
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Theorem: What will happen if you do?
Inverse: What won't happen if you do? Converse: What will happen if you don't? Non-Mirror Image Reverse: What won't happen if you don't? |
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Identification Statements - Identity Complex Equivalences
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I am ....
How do you know this? Do you feel that way all the time? What specific experiences, actions, circumstances has led you to conclude "you" as a person can be summarized in the emotional term ".....?" |
Especially dangerous because we usually frame our identity (as a belief that conceptually constructs the self) at a higher logical level than most of our other beliefs.
With I AM statements we are encoding and representing ourselves with a nominalization. We represent ourselves in a way that has no movement or action, it is static. "To be' verbs is, am, are, be, being, been, was were etc. Continue to ask questions to get the movement back into the mapping. |
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8 - Positive Prior Intention Framing
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What is the positive intention behind, within or above this behavior? You can find it or invent it.
Three distinctions: 1) Intent and Behavior, 2) Person and Action. 3) Internal Intent and External Expression. The eliciting questions for this pattern involve exploring intentions, the "why" question which drive a person's motivation, secondary gains etc. A) Why is this valuable to you? B) How is this important to you? C) What's your positive intention? D) What does this mean to you? E) What happens when you get this? |
Behind every behavior (E.B.) is a positive intention (I.S.), somehow it is an attempt to create value.
Utilizes the "meaning" drive in us, the desire to create meaning in our lives. This form of mind-lining matches or paces another's model of the world as it searches for the heart and spirit within and above the behavior. "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." Thanks. I'm glad you brought that up because it seems you really do care about getting the proper value out of your purchases, so I'm wondering how much value do you want from that this? "Being late means you don't care." I can see how being late to you means I don't care.I'm touched by the fact that you really do want to know and feel assured that I truly care for you. That's more valuable to you than I realized. |
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9 - Positive Prior Cause Framing
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Positive Prior Cause is positive in that it puts the cause on something outside of ourselves and on something that is non-personal.
To elicit this pattern simply explore other possible Positive Prior Causes that cause or contribute to the response or belief statement: 1) What could be a possible cause for this limiting belief or hurtful behavior? 2) What else could explain this that opens up space for change? 3) What behaviors or actions of others, or of neutral events could also explain how a person would draw a particular conclusion? |
Appeals to socially acceptable reasons for a behavior while simultaneously disconnecting the behavior from mere excuse making and focusing on negative causes that we personalize.
By bringing PPC to the limiting belief or behavior we invite the other person to broaden his understanding of the contributing causes and influencing factors. "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." I'm glad that you take a position like that to make a good decision about purchases because I would like to give you some other facts about this product that you will appreciate for that very reason. |
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10 - First Outcome Framing
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To elicit as the consequential questions:
1) What will happen if you continue to think this way? 2) Do you like the outcome as it plays out into the future? 3) What does this way of thinking lead to? 4) Is this your highest path? This frame is more in a confrontational tone, a little in their face about their future consequences of believing/doing this. it can be an intensifier of both positive and negative. |
"I can't buy your product because it costs too much." Thanks for bringing this up because it seems that you really do care about getting value from everything you do. Yet is this way of thinking "insert his response to you" actually helping you achieve that objective? What do you think? With that attitude, what do you usually experience?
"When you show up late, it means you don't care about me." When you keep telling me that being late means I don't care about you it seems that you don't listen to how I do care about you, I feel frustrated and put off. I then wonder if we should even stay together. Is that the response you want, for me to back off from you or to break off our relationship? |
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11 - Outcome of Outcome Framing
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Gets them to engage in consequential thinking over the long-term to gain an even greater perspective over time about effects and effects of effects. Extrapolate it to infinity where the absurdities of the behavior become evident.
Pattern Summary: A) What consequence will occur after this first outcome? B) What results will or could arise from the first results? C) Yes, the issue may seem to be this internal state at this point in time, yet what will it result in later on? D) When you expand your vision to the years to come and the accumulating consequences, is that what you really want? |
Takes the wisdom of the future and brings those insights into the present.
"I can't buy your product because it costs too much." The price certainly seems to cost too much now, but I wonder if by putting off the purchase now how much more you will cost yourself by not using the best possible tools for your business? I wonder how you feel about the missed opportunities your fear of price caused. Often we don't truly realize the effects of our decisions until much later on and we say "If only I had known that I would have made a ton of money!" Well, now you do. Just fill this out and we'll get you started. |
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12 - Eternity Framing
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Starting with the end in mind.
Recasting it into a much larger frame often brings other perspectives, ideas and values into play. Elicitation questions of eternity: A) When I get to the end of my life, how will this external behavior look from that perspective? B) If I take the perspective of eternity, how would that change the way I am looking at this? C) How will this look say 50 or 100 years from now? |
Wisdom of the future brought into the present.
"I can't buy your product because it costs too much." It really seems like a big deal today...and maybe that's the problem. Just for the fun of it, imagine yourself having come to the end of your sojourn, and ready to leave this world, and look back to this day when you had this opportunity to make this purchase...and how expensive does it seem when you view it from that larger point of view? It's insignificant and the benefits are so, so high! let's do this! |
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Back to the future, a few more times...Alternative Eternity Framing
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As an alternative way to handle future pacing, consequential out-framing, and the mind-lines of outcome thinking let's respond by using the four questions from Cartesian Logic...
#1) What would happen if you do? #2) What would happen if you don't? #3) What would not happen if you do? #4) What would not happen if you don't? |
What effect do these four questions have on you? Apply them to some future activity that you are planning to initiate. Now entertain each question and step into the thoughts and feelings that emerge.
Would you want that future now so that it could become your present reality? |
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13 - Model Of The World
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Elicitation Questions:
1) Does this belief hold true for everybody? 2) Where did you learn to think this way? 3) Who taught you to think or feel this way. Use temporal shifts and play with modalities. How would it look feel, hear this way. at this time? This means that, well it changes. Shift their internal movie. |
Invites someone to momentarily step away from their model and try on another, it's only a mental construct anyway.
Our thoughts come and go, change and transform. what is our world now wasn't always and may not be in the future. "Your product costs too much." So, the product "seems" like it costs too much? Does it really "seem" that way to you? Do you think this way generally about this product or did you come to think this way because of a particular experience? How would you feel if you discovered it wasn't true, but just an old way of thinking about it? |
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14 - Criteria and Values Framing
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Use elicitation questions about values and application of values:
A) What are some higher criteria or values of this person? B) What would happen if I invited this person to apply his or her higher values and principles to X? C) What value would prove useful to apply to this limiting belief? D) Which is more important to them and what would happen if we applied it? |
" I can't buy your product because it costs too much." I can see that your value of appropriate cost means a lot. So I have a question, will this concern help make you money? If you knew you could make a return on investment with this particular product, a return of five dollars for every dollar that you invested you would buy this in an instant, wouldn't you? So shouldn't we focus on increased value rather than risk of spending?
"Cancer causes death." Which is more important to you, having a sense of peace by giving in to fate and giving up or standing up for yourself, your health, and fighting for options? Would you prefer to spend your energy hunting for options or to use this to feel sorry for yourself? |
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15 - Allness framing
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Just apply the idea of universality to the belief...always, never, none, nobody, everybody, all the time etc.
Elicitation Questions: 1) What has this person not noticed? 2) How can I use a universal quantifier to exaggerate this belief by pushing it beyond its limits? Everybody, Always, Never? 3) If applied to all humans, would this make sense and still cohere as a legitimate belief? |
Does the belief cohere when applied that way? If it doesn't cohere then the shift will deframe the belief to some degree or all the way.
Person needs to perform a referential index shift which alters their perceptions as they consider alternatives. "Saying mean things makes you a bad person." Since everyone has at sometime said something mean, the only kind of people on the planet are bad people! How enhancing does that make this idea that mean words create bad people for the human race? |
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16 - Necessity Framing
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A) Modal Operators Of Necessity: "have to, must, should, ought, got to etc. JUDGEMENT!!!!
B) Modal Operators Of Possibility or desire: Characterizing a reality that is expressed by opportunities, possibilities, desires, passions etc. I get to do, I want to, I desire to... C) Modal Operators of Impossibility: Terms that indicate the lack of possibility, limitations, constraint, can't, won't, and it's impossible. A frame of lack. They present inability, helplessness, prohibition etc. Elicitations, use Meta-Model questions to the modal operators that you hear people use: 1) What stops you from doing this? 2) Do you have to do this? Who says? 3) What would happen if you did this? What's the worst case scenario? Do you have any resources for handling that? 4) Is that a true and legitimate fear or is that just a vague apprehension that you use to avoid taking action? |
Linguistic structures that prescribe a "mode of operation" for moving through life. Modal Operators.
Question and test some of the assumptions of the belief. In this there are several modes of operation that can describe how we move through life. " I can't buy your product because it costs too much." What stops you from going ahead and investing the money to buy this product even if you think the cost may run a little high compared to what you would prefer to spend so that you could begin to enjoy the benefits now? |
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17 - Identity Framing
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Inquire about what a person has identified with and how.
1) Who are you, how do you identify yourself? 2) What have you identified with, how have you identified with it? 3) To what extent is this identification? 4) How much awareness do you have that you have done this? 5) How much control do you have over this identification? 6) Does it serve you well, does it empower you? 7) Does it give you sufficient flexibility so that you are more than the identification? |
The danger in identity thinking is sameness, that the map never changes.
Dis-identify ourselves from limiting self-definitions,. "Coming in late means you don't care about me." So how I handle time and schedules turns me into a caring or an uncaring person? So truly caring people behave time management skills down to an art? Truly caring people always use Day Timers. |
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18 - All Other Abstractions Framing
Catch all for what's left over. |
To elicit this pattern, question what and how you can move up from the specific E.B. or I.S. in a belief statement to other abstractions and concepts. Think of it in terms of adding some particular texturing or coloring to the belief:
A) What higher abstractions summarize the facets in the belief? B) When you think about your belief in terms of these larger abstractions does it still make sense? C) What principle or idea could I use to outframe this belief? |
"Your product costs too much." Well, we do often get what we pay for. And, if you really don't want the best product available, I can understand how you would let the price tag totally control your decisions.
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Unreality Frame
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We can map out out un-reality and represent the idea of something being "unreal" and then apply it to a belief. Kind of dis-flavor it a little.
Unreality predicates include: "seems, appears, thinks, looks like etc." |
So it seems like the price is too high?
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The Self and Other Frame
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Speak in a way that puts emphasis on "you" in contradistinction to "me."
Suggests that their model of the world may differ from other peoples models. |
So, for you, the idea of being late means that I don't care?
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Time Zones Frame
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We can distinguish a current situation that is now occurring and a situation as it did or might occur at some other time.
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How long have you thought this way about the feelings of love and caring and the way we measure time?
So, if I understand you, at this moment in time you have been thinking that lateness and caring are intricately related to each other? Have you always thought about it that way? So if I arrive very late it means I care even less? If I arrive early do I care more? |
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The Realization Frame
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You now realize this, don't you?
And how does that feel.? (Powerful Mind To Muscle connection, gateway to new resources) Question enables the resource to become operational. Sends mind down to level of see-hear-feel in the primary state and up to the realization level. 1) What do you think when you become aware of this? 2) What will you do now that you know? 3) How ill your life be different now that you have noticed this? 4) Who will you be now that you have realized this? 5) I wonder how you will interact with others now that you have become aware of this resource and what it can do for you. |
People will very often simply fail to notice all the changes they have made, even very significant ones. With a little reflection that can be changed.
Without noticing and realizing we can feel that nothing much is happening, or worse, that we're not progressing. Remaining unconscious of the changes we have made we can unknowingly discount what has changed which can undermine our motivation so that we slide back into feeling and acting unresourceful. "I snap at people for bothering me when I get interrupted and yet I'm doing this work to be a more loving person." And how does it feel to realize that? Gets them noticing their first level behavior is not matching their highest preferred intentions. |
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19 - Ecology Framing
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Evaluate your evaluations. Checking out the productivity, value, usefulness congruence etc. of a belief, behavior or emotion:
A) When we construct reality in this way and wrap our minds around it in this or that way, does it serve us well? B) Does it limit or enhance us? Does it make life a party? C) Does it keep our whole system in balance and well-ordered, or does it throw things out of balance and endanger our overall well-being? |
"I can't buy your product because it costs too much." Thinking about purchasing solely in terms of cost probably gives you eyes that sort exclusively for price tags. Does that enable you or disrupt you from getting the things that will really enhance your business?
" i can't really make a difference because management doesn't walk their talk." How ell does that way of thinking about management empower you as a person? If it shuts down your creativity, perseverance and interferes with your good judgment, how ecological are these negative effects on your mind and body? |
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20 - Metaphoring Framing
Or, Storying and Re-Storying Framing |
Match the other person's structure in thinking, life or experience. Conversational, covert rather than overt, to bypass conscious awareness.
Seemingly unrelated story, conscious distraction whilst receiving unconscious meaning. Stories are less threatening than direct advice. Interpreted in relation to one's needs. A) Activating Trans-Derivational searches B) Shifting of referential indices. C) Structuring isomorphic (formal) similarities between representations of different responses.. I once knew someone who... They take a trip and hear the story based on their own experiences, that is how they make sense of it. Links will arise from similarities with the listeners life. In the olden days, they talked about stories as spells. the spell entrances us and we are transported into new worlds and realities. |
Abductive transformations that map between one deep structure and another, or between one surface structure and another. Both falling under the same rules!
Metaphorical mind-lines can introduce new strategies (across broad swaths of consciousness), references, memories, imaginations, goals, meanings, states, ideas etc. Dilts: Individuals can learn much about the possibilities of their own behavior by considering the operation of other systems. Imagining that you are a bird in a certain situation, as opposed to a lion, will open up and abolish many different avenues of response. "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." I once had a friend who always complained about the high cost of clothes for his teenage daughter. he complained bitterly. Then, one day his daughter died in an auto accident. now when he thinks about spending money on clothes for her...he wishes he had that opportunity. |
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21 - Both/And Either/Or This or That Framing
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Generate reframes by including the excluded middle and by identifying a context or idea that includes both poles.
To elicit, listen for either-or words, terms or structure and then question in a wondering way if it is really black or white: A) Could there be a middle ground? B) Could the issue or problem involve a degree of something or perhaps a both/and perspective? C) To what extent is this absolutely true? D) to what extent is this completely an either/or choice? |
"I can't buy your product it costs too much." Does the price of this product totally control your decision? I'm surprised about that. I would have thought the values that you can derive from this product might also influence your decision.
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22 - Pseudo-Word Framing
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Pattern Summary: To elicit this pattern, notice the words that people say and write and question them, sit back and really question the referent experience for which they stand.
1) Is there really such a thing. can you feel, see, hear it? If not it is not real. what is it actually referring to? 2) Yet perhaps it is a thing of the mind, a nominalization. Is the mental thing a legitimate concept that you want in your mental world? 3) What is the actual referent of this term or phrase? 4) Could this be a pseudo-word rather that a real symbol standing for something actual or conceptual? |
Take the word failure, it doesn't actually reference anything, so do not allow it any referents in your life. It is meaningless. Slice it out of your mental library.
"Saying mean things makes you a bad person." What are you referring to when you use the term "mean things?" I really don't understand, how can a word be mean? Undesired and unappreciated I can understand, but "mean?" |
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23 - Negation Framing
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To elicit this pattern, consider the existence and/or reality of something, then frame it as unreal and non-existing. Consider ways of inviting negation that makes something go away, become nothing, disappears etc.:
A) How real is it, how real do you want it to be? B) Does it have external reality or does it exist only in the mind? C) Do you want to give it this much reality in your life? |
"Saying mean things makes you a bad person." Used to think that too, then I found that thought just evaporated from my mind as I realized that if I evaluate it morally as "kind" or "mean" that would make me X and Y. That's when it just began to fade away, if you can imagine that.
"I can't really make a difference because management doesn't walk their talk." Would you want to make a difference in spite of what management does? Then suppose you found your internal voice of "No!" so that you could stubbornly refuse to be stopped by someone else's incompetence? "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." As you consider the values and benefits of this product, I wonder just how much more money you would generate from your already current customers and their friends. It would right? Good, so there's no question about the value and usefulness of this product? It's just the cost, right? 8% higher than wanted, you would let 8% stop you from improving your business so much more? |
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24 - Possibility and "As If" Framing
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To elicit this pattern, notice the linguistic distinction of modal operators. Does the person frame things so that a choice is even possible in his or her world? Invite the person to at least try on the idea using a what if, suppose, or some possibility statement:
1) What would it be like if....? 2) Suppose you could have this desired outcome, what would that be like for you? 3) I know it seems impossible, please, indulge me for a moment, If it were possible, what would you be thinking, feeling hearing or imagining? |
Apply a frame of possibility thoughts and feelings over an old limiting belief. How would that change things for you?
"Showing up late means you don't care about me." What's the possibility that a person could care while being late for an appointment? Is that a human possibility at all? If it were, could it also be possible to realize that someone is late and to feel loved and valued. "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." It's not even possible for you to choose to go with this high valued product because of the price tag? So you can't even imagine what it would be like to buy at this level or possible to conceive of the difference it would make in your business? |
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25 - Systemic and Probability Framing
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To elicit this pattern step back to a meta position to the whole system and inquire about the many different facets and factors that play a role.
1) Is the subject linear or non-linear? 2) What is the system of interactive parts involved? 3) Does linear thinking adequately address this subject? 4) what else plays a significant part in this system? 5) What are the boundaries and borders of this system? 6) What is the probability the subject can be framed in this way and this way only? 7) What is the probability that non-linear thinking or systemic thinking would more accurately or usefully frame this subject? |
Larger, holistic way of looking at things. It heals fragmented dichotomies, providing insights+understandings.
"Can't buy, it costs too much." Certainly the price plays a role in your decision, yet are you saying that your need to incentivize and optimize return visits from your customers through loyalty rewards, your realization that you can track and reach out directly! and make offers to your customers, that thereby this investment will make your business more profitable, plays no role at all? If these other factors do play into your decision making, how do they? How much influence do they carry in deciding to purchase this product? "Cancer causes death." Is it really that cancer or life and death is a single thing? Are these not processes? So isn't the real question, "What mind-body-emotion processes could we activate that would begin to strengthen our immune system and counteract the cancering?" No relationship context, no accounting for moods or feeling grumpy, teasing? |
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26 - Decision Framing
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To elicit this pattern, look at the issues or problems from the standpoint of a decision and contrast it to a thought, feeling, desire, urge etc. As a mind-line pattern, we express the decision frame as:
A) What have you decided? B) When do we get started? C) What one thing are you going to do today to do today that will support and give feet to this new understanding? D) What one thing can I begin to do today so that I will be more able to become fluent in mind-lines in the future? E) Does this decision limit or enhance your life? |
What Decision Frame has by implication covertly driving our behavior? It could be a Perfectionist frame "it's not good enough" or a fear frame holding one back for more assurance or a Reflective frame that believes in getting a second opinion again and again or an Incongruent frame that isn't really clear about what to choose or a Hesitation frame driven by the need to get outside confirmation.
Making a real decision until we do take action rather than theorizing and rationalizing. ideas into action. "I can't buy your product because it costs too much." I can see that you don't want to spend the extra money that it would cost to invest in this, but as we know, sometimes the best decisions we can make for our long term value isn't based upon our immediate feelings but upon our more thoughtful decisions. |
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Designing Alternative Futures
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Chris Hall Master Practitioner describing a point in her life when she had come to a point of indecision.
In my mind i went out to my future, and then to the end of my time-line. From there I looked back on the decision point of this day when I was attempting to make a decision. When I did this, the process brought about a dissociation for me, The effect of that was that some new criteria came into play thus providing me the needed information and frame from which to make a good decision. Now I could play each scenario out and more fully notice the values of risk, fear, hesitation etc. |
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