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74 Cards in this Set
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Marriage is by nature a covenant, not just a private contract one may cancel at will. Yet many couples, even those who have been married in the temple, approach marriage like a contract. When troubles come in marriage, what is different about the response of contract vs. covenant couples?
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Contract couples run away/get divorced
Covenant couples work through their differences. |
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What did Elder Hafen say a contract companion gives in comparison to a covenant companion?
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Contract gives 50%
Covenant gives 100% |
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Name the 3 “wolves” Elder Hafen said that test every marriage?
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- Natural adversity
- Personal imperfections - Excessive individualism |
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In times of distress, what did Elder Christofferson say we should do?
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Let your covenants be paramount
Let your obedience be exact |
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What is the new and everlasting covenant?
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The gospel of Jesus Christ
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Elder Christofferson spoke of three things that come to us if we make and keep sacred covenants. Name them.
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- Strengthened by gifts and blessings
- Strengthened with increased faith - Strengthened throught he power of godliness |
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President Kimball referred to divorce as “an ugly dragon.” Yet, divorce itself, he said, does not constitute the entire evil. What else did he say is a serious sin of this generation?
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Acceptance of Divorce
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President Kimball taught a never-failing formula for successful marriage which begins with a proper approach to marriage that includes what two things?
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Selection before courting
Continued courting after marriage |
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Besides a proper approach to marriage, there were three other ingredients in President Kimball’s formula? Name them.
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Proper approach
Great unselfishness Keeping commandments |
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Every divorce, President Kimball said, is the result of what?
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Selfishness
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President Kimball counseled us to plan our lives carefully to ensure there are no impediments to proper and successful marriage. Great happiness will come if couples are willing to do what?
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Love the Lord and each other more than yourself and work in harmony in the gospel
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President Hinckley said the remedy for most of the stress and difficulty that comes in marriage is _______.
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the Golden Rule
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Marriage is beautiful, said President Hinckley, when beauty is looked for, when husband and wife work together to invite the Spirit into the home and when they remember each is a child of God. What other three things did President Hinckley say couples should be willing to do to make marriage beautiful?
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Willingness to overlook small faults, forgive, and forget, holding one's tongue, self-discipline
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Elder Oaks said, “The old-fashioned date was a wonderful way to get acquainted with a member of the opposite sex.” He then spoke of three benefits that dating has over hanging out. Name them.
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1. One-on-one
2. Temporary committment ??? |
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What are the “3 p’s” of dating?
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Planned ahead
Paid for Paired off |
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To persuade young men to ask for dates more frequently, what did Elder Oaks counsel young women to do?
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- Encourage dates
- Don't encourage hanging out by providing lots of food - Don't imply a date includes continuing committment |
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Elder Wickman identified three reasons why so many put off and fear marriage. Name those reasons.
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1. Ease of hanging out
2. Fear of making a mistake 3. Adolescent recoiling from responsibility |
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Elder Wickman noted that even if fear doesn’t result in avoiding or postponing marriage, it often leads to two other common mistakes. What are they?
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1. Treat situation like it's entirely spiritual
2. Look to someone else to decide |
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Elder Wickman warned against the danger of “superficial ticket punching.” What did he mean by that?
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Get to know someone's character first-hand instead of relying on their "gospel resume"
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When, did Elder Holland say, much of the opposition we will face in mortality will come?
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Before great, spiritual moments
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Revelation, Elder Holland said, usually comes in response to ___________.
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A question
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Elder Holland spoke of three lessons we learn about God and revelation from the story of the ancient Israelites crossing the Red Sea. What were the three lessons?
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1. Ask for revelation
2. Don't fear 3. God will provide a way for you to accomplish what you need |
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Elder Scott said faith must be founded on what three things?
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1. HF's love for us
2. His plan of happiness 3. Capacity and willingness of Jesus Christ |
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Name the 5 principles Elder Scott said would strengthen our faith.
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1. Trust in God no matter circumstances
2. Obey His commandments 3. Be sensitive to the Spirit 4. Act on promptings 5. Be pacient |
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What did Elder Scott say is necessary to increase our confidence and ability to employ the power of faith?
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The consistent, willing exercise of faith
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Faith, Elder Scott said, will forge _______ which will then enable us in times of trial and testing to _______.
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will forge "strength of character"
enables us to make important decisions right |
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President Hinckley said the most important decision of your life will be the individual you choose to marry. What counsel did he give regarding that decision?
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Choose the right person in the right place at the right time.
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Elder Bruce R. McConkie suggested the right person is one who is living so that he or she can go to the temple. He also said the right person is someone for whom the ____________ that should exist between two people does exist.
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Natural, wholesome, and normal affection
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Elder Scott suggested three things men should consider to be essential priorities in a prospective wife. Name them.
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- Desire to be a wife and mother
- Be developing sacred qualities that God has given her. - Be acquiring a good education. |
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Regarding a prospective husband, Elder Scott counseled women to look for a prospective husband who is doing two things? Name them.
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- Honor/use his priesthood to serve
- Making efforts to fulfill provider responsibilities. |
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What yardstick did President Benson give single men in determining whether a girl is the right one or not?
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When you're around her, do you:
- Think noblest thoughts - Aspire to do kind deeds - Wish you were better than you are |
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President Hinckley said the girl you marry can expect you to come to the marriage altar absolutely clean from the stains of the world. No girl in her right mind would want to marry someone who struggles with any one of 3 things? Name them.
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- Porn
- Drugs - Alcohol |
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President Hinckley promised there would be great happiness in marriage if there was a constant effort to do what?
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Please make happy the other
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Elder Holland quoted President Hinckley in saying that most problems in love and marriage ultimately start with what?
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Selfishness
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When, did Elder Holland say, true love blooms?
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When we care more about the other person than we do about ourselves
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What is at least one difference between a tolerable marriage and a great one, according to Elder Holland?
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To allow some things to pass without comment or response
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What did Elder Holland say will surely put any dating relationship in peril?
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Separating dating and discipleship
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What capacity did Elder Jensen suggest makes us most lovable to others?
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Our own capacity to give love
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What did Elder Jensen say is the only way we will ever be capable of offering pure, Christlike love to our companions for all eternity?
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When we love God above all others
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One of the most important keys to being filled with the capacity to love others, as Alma taught Shiblon in the Book of Mormon, is to do what?
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Bridle your passions
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What did Elder McConkie say are the two most important things that any Latter-day Saint ever does in this world?
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Marry the right person in the right place by the right authority
Keep covenants made |
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Elder McConkie referred to the experience of Oliver Cowdery trying to translate the Book of Mormon. He explained that Oliver failed because he did not understand what the Lord meant by asking in faith. What did that counsel imply, according to Elder McConkie?
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Asking in faith and THEN, working as hard as we can to accomplish the goal
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When seeking confirmation about whom to marry, how did Elder McConkie say you should feel if it is right and how will you feel if it is wrong?
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Right: Calm, sweet surety
Wrong: anxiety and uncertainty |
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Inspiration does not and perhaps cannot come to us unless we do what?
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Ask for it
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The Holy Ghost speaks with a voice that you _____ more than you _____.
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Feel
Hear |
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What did Elder Packer say is far more destructive and dangerous than many young people realize?
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Destructive music
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What will happen to us if we become critical or harbor negative feelings?
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The spirit will withdraw
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The Spirit, said Elder Packer, does not get our attention by shouting or shaking us with a heavy hand. Rather it whispers. It caresses so gently that we may not feel it at all if we are _____.
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Preoccupied
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We cannot force spiritual things. We can only create a climate that will invite the Spirit into our lives and then must patiently wait for the Lord to choose the time and the place of revelation. While we wait, what did Elder Packer say the Lord expects us to do?
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Go on with our lives
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Elder Oaks said revelation can come through face to face communication with God and angels, or through dreams and visions. However, in its more familiar forms, revelation generally comes in what four ways?
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1. Words or thoughts in the mind
2. Sudden enlightenment 3. Positive or negative feelings 4. Inspiring performances |
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Name and be able to describe the eight purposes of revelation.
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- Testimony of HG, JC, and gospel
- Prophecy - Comfort - Uplift - Inform - Restrain - Confirm - Impel |
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What is the principle of “responsibility or stewardship” in revelation?
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We can only receive revelation that concerns our stewardship
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Elder Oaks said we do not receive revelation for all decisions, even for all important decisions. What is the Lord’s purpose in that?
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We would not gain experience or develop faith and self-reliance
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Five weapons we can use to overcome fear:
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1. Faith
2. Knowledge 3. Preparation 4. Experience 5. Love 5. |
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What is the "right belonging to the fathers?"
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The Melchizedek Priesthood
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Why is it called the Abrahamic Covenant?
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1) Abraham was promised that through his seed all nations of the earth would be blessed and because
2) he and his seed were charged to be the ministers of the covenant and its blessings to all mankind |
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Three main blessings of Abrahamic Covenant:
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- promised land
- priesthood - posterity |
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Three covenants we MUST keep:
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1. Sacrament
2. Tithing 3. Temple |
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Four steps in the revelatory process:
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1. Study it out
2. Go to the Lord in prayer to receive confirmation of decision 3. If our decision is right, the Lord will confirm it with a feeling 4. If our conclusion or decision is wrong, we will have a stupor of thought |
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Three ideas about the "study it out" process:
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1. Understand the stewardship principle
2. Connection between reverence and inspiration 3. Difference between being occupied and preoccupied |
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Three things to remember when seeking confirmation:
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1. Be ready to accept and act upon the Lord's counsel
2. Don't think that everything will fall into place neatly and effortlessly 3. Understand that confirmation is a process rather than an event |
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Four reasons confirmation is sometimes withheld:
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1. We're not worthy
2. Haven't studied it out well enough yet 3. Both choices are equally acceptable in the Lord's eyes 4. Help us grow and become more self-reliant |
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Three cautions dealing with receiving a feeling of confirmation:
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1. Don't misunderstand "burning in the bosom"
2. Don't substitute the word "know" for "feel" 3. Know what to do when your head tells you one thing but your heart tells you another |
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How do we move from independence to interdependence?
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- Thinking win/win
- Seeking first to understand, then to be understood - Synergizing (recognizing the combined efforts are greater than separate efforts) |
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Two qualities of interdependent people:
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1. Christ-centered
2. Spirit-directed |
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Two qualities of independent people:
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1. Others-centered
2. Self-directed |
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Two qualities of dependent people:
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1. Self-centered
2. Others-directed |
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In the United States and Canada, what are you required by law to take with you to the temple?
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A marriage license
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Neither curiosity nor deep interest in what goes on in the temple constitutes adequate preparation for the temple. A person must have a foundation of faith, repentance, baptism and confirmation. Then two other preparations should be added. Name them.
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Maturity and dignity
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Elder Packer said there are 3 things that will happen to us if we go to the temple in the proper spirit and remember the teaching is symbolic? Name them.
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1. Vision extended
2. More exhalted 3. Spiritual knowledge increased |
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Elder Asay taught that both how an individual feels about the Church and everything that relates to it as well as the measure of one’s worthiness and devotion to the gospel could all be seen by what one thing?
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If they wear their garments correctly
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Elder Asay compared the temple garment to the armor of God and the armor of righteousness spoken of in the scriptures. He suggested the garment serves three important purposes. Name them.
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1. Reminder of sacred covenants made in Temple
2. Covering for the body 3. Symbol of dress of modesty and righteous living |
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Elder Scott gave 11 suggestions on how we can gain more benefit from temple attendance. Which ones would help you? Be prepared to name several.
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1. Schedule regular visits
2. Have time so you're not hurried 3. Take off your watch |
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Elder Scott said no matter what happens to us in mortality, we have no reason to worry or feel despondent if what?
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If we keep our temple covenants and live righteously
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