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39 Cards in this Set
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inequality in power |
one partner makes decisions |
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interpersonal conflict |
ones goals interfere or incompatible with those of another |
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why is conflict inescapable |
certain tensions always cause strain moods differ |
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dialectics |
opposing motivations that would hurt relationship |
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6 frequnet causes of fights |
personality attachment stage of life similarity sleep alcohol |
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4 instigating events |
criticism illegitamate demands rebuff cumulative nnoyances |
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criticism |
verbal or nonverbal acts that are judged to communicate disatisfaciton with partner |
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illegitamate demands |
requests that exceed normal limis |
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rebuff |
one person appeals. other fails to respond |
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cumulative annoyances |
trivial events that irritate with repitition |
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actor observer |
explain own behavior differently |
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self serving bias |
judge own actions more favorably |
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attributional confict |
fight over who is right |
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direct mean comments |
explicitly challenge |
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indirect mean comments |
veiled |
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negative affect reciprocity |
partners trade escalating provovations back and forth |
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demand withdraw |
one partner engages in demanding form, other withdraws |
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social structure hypothesis |
differences in power of men and women |
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direvt vs indirect negotiation |
openly discuss or skirt |
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4 responses to ocnflict |
voice loyalty exit neglect |
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voice |
improve situation by discussing |
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loyalty |
wait and hope conditions improve |
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exit |
end relationship or threaten to end |
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neglect |
passive but destructive. let get worse |
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4 types of conflict |
volatile validators avoiders hostiles |
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volatile |
frequent passionate arguments |
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validators |
fight politely |
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avoiders |
rarely argue. avoid confrontation |
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hostiles |
fail to maintain |
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5 ways to end conflict |
seperation domination compomise integrative agreement structural improvement |
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seperation |
withdraw with no resolution |
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dominance |
one gets way |
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compromise |
both reduce aspirations to mutual alternative |
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integrative agreement |
satisfy both partners goals |
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structural improvement |
both partners get what they want and grow |
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3 things to do in fights |
dont withdraw dont go negative dont get caught up in negative affect reciprocity |
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speaker listener technique |
good way to resolve fights |
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Sexual guest lecture added |
Hard to talk about sex in our culture. Don't associate pain with sex and communicate |
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Ipv talk |
Dating violence. In youth. Assumed female connection. Minority compounds |
