Intimate Relationships And Lifestyle

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What is Intimacy?

Back 1

emotional closeness

Front 2

Erickson's stage?

Back 2

Intimacy versus isolation stage-early adulthood
-important part of intimacy is self disclosure (revelations about self to another person)

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Sources of Intimacy?

Back 3

1. Friendships
-mutual , provider support , companionship and is voluntary

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Gender differences in friendships?

Back 4

Men:
- friendships w/ other men tend to be based on shared activities, more competitive "talk"
-have fewer friendships than women
-talk side by side not face to face


Women
-women's friendship w/other women are based on intimate emotional sharing , more agreement oriented talk
• go into intimate detail
• face to face when they talk

Front 5

Number of friends across the life span

Back 5

Peaks in young adulthood
remains the same in middle adulthood
declines in late adulthood (older people become very selective of who they spend their time with and thus their # of friends decline

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Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love

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1. Intimacy
- Emotional connectedness or boundedness

2.Passion
-Romantic feelings and physical sexual desire

3. Commitment
- Desire to maintain the relationship

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Types of Love

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1. Liking
- Intimacy w/out passion and commitment (friends)

2.Infatuation
- Passion without intimacy or commitment
(affair, obsessive love)

3. Empty Love
- Commitment w/out passion and intimacy
(parents who stay together for the sake of the kids)

4. Romantic Love
- Intimacy and passion w/out commitment
(summer love, cruise ships)

5. Fatuous Love
- Passion and commitment w/out intimacy
(continuous booty call)

6. Companionate Love
- Intimacy and commitment without passion.
(can't have sex, health reasons)

7. Consummate Love
- Combination of Intimacy, passion, and commitment.
(Longterm relationship)

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Adult Lifestyles

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1. Never married
- "Urban Tribe"
• gotten college degree
• can support themselves
•live in the city
• friends that never married
-no available spouse
-getting married later

2. Cohabiting Adults
-Increasing in numbers
- less that 1 out of ten last 5 years before splitting up
-more equalitarian relationship than found in marriage.

5. Widowhood
-women are more likely to be widows than men are to be widowers
-men more likely to die soon after their spouse dies.