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A kind of love chactherized by passion or intamacy
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True/Romantic Love
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A state of intense absorption or focus on another person
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Infatuation
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What type of love did the Middle Ages have?
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Courtly love
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Examples of Courtly Love
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Cinderella, sleeping beauty, Snow White
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Romantic love is rated as the single most important reason for....
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Marrige
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percentage of men that report love is important.
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96%
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percentage of women who report that love is important.
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98%
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Attributes sexual experiances to love
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Gender diffrences
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Example of double standard toward sexuality,
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EX: girl: "I thought I loved him."
boy: "I wanted to." |
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Romantic love is...
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Cross Cultral
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loving attachment and non- sexual affection.
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Storge
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selfless love:generosity and charity
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Agape
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Friendship love, liking and respect
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Philia
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Passion
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Eros
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Who created a love attitude scale?
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Susan and Clyde Hendrick
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Romantic love (Eros)
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Lover that fits your ideal
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game players love (Ludus)
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No commitment
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friendship (Phillia)
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Love that grows out of friendship.
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logical love (Pragma)
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considers a lovers potential
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Possessive (Mania)
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Focused; infatuated, love sick.
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selfless love (Agape)
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being and advocate, unconditional love.
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What are the 3 things in Sternberg's Theory of Love?
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Inamacy
Passion Commitment |
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The experiance of warmth and closeness that arises between two people
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Intamacy
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An intense romantic and sexual desire for another
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Passion
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Involves dedication to maintaining a relationship
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Commitment
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What is the most common lifestyle for people in thier 20's?
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Singlehood
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In the 20-24 age reange what percentage of men are NOT married.
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84%
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In the 20-24 age range, what percentage f women are NOT married?
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73%
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What is average age for men to get married?
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27
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What is the average age for women to get married?
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25
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Name 4 reason why people wait to get married?
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1. persue educational and career goals.
2. want to live together first 3.encounter less social stigma 4. prolonged adolecence |
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A pattern of involvment in one exclusive relationship after another
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Serial Monogamy
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Complete sexual abstinence
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Celibacy
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by the time people graduate from high school over --% have had sex.
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80%
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By the age 21 --% have had sex
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90%
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What is NOT a true trend?
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Celibacy.
Because most people are having sex. |
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What is celibacy and inpact on?
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Pre-teens.
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Living together, bt not legally married.
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Cohabitation
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POSSLQ
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People of opposite sex sharing living quarters.
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What are the three trends before marrige?
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Cohabitaion
Celibacy Serial Monogamy |
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What percentage of couples that cohabitate get married?
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55%
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Cohabitation is more common amoung
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african americans
and less educated |
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Name 4 reasons why people cohabitate.
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1. not ready for marrige
2. economic foctors 3. have more liberal attitudes 4. because they believe that thier relationship is going to result in marrige. |
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What percentage of people that cohabititae think that their realtionship is going to end in marriage?
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80%
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People who cohabitate are at a greater risk for---
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Divorce
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People often assume that living together will make things better after ---
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Marriage
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Once you start to live together it is hard to--
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Break up and move on
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People who do not live together for marrige are most likely what?
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Conservative
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--% of families in the US are headed by married couples
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52%
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About --% of marriages end in a divorce.
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50%
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In a New York Times Poll, --% of respondents believe that if they got married today, they would stay married for the rest of thier lives.
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86%
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In Patriarchal traditions a woman is seen as ___
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Chattel.
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People get married for ____cultral needs, provide ____ ____, provides an ____ to ____ _____, transition of ____, provides emotional and ______ security, and _____ ____
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personal
legal sanction institution to raise children wealth psychologial romantic love |
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Openly seeks out other sexual partners
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Open Marriage
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2 people only have sex with each other
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Monogamy
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Multipul wives
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polygyny
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multipul husbands
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polyandry
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What are 2 trends IN MARRIAGE?
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homogamy
Mating Gradient |
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We marry people like us
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homogamy
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tendancy for women to marry up
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Mating Gradient
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Who was dominant in the Sexual Revolution?
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Males
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Sexual Revolution: time of foreplay rose from _-_ mins.
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12-15
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Sexual Rvoulution: Time of intercoure rose from 2 mins to _ mins to _.
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15
an hour |
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The sexual revoultion caused people to do what more frequently?
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have sex
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Sexual Revolution created more ____ with sex. and the average married couple have sex how many times per week?
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variety
2-3 times per week |
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Relationships operate on what theory?
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Social Exchange Theory
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The view that the development of a relationship reflects the unfolding of social exchanges - the rewards and costs of maintaining a relationship as opposed to ending it.
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Social Exchange Theory
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Who had the view that romantic relationships go through 5 stages?
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Levinger
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B- C- D- E- |
A- attraction
B- building C- continuation D- deteriroration E- ending |
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When two people become aware of one another and are appealing to each other,
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Attraction
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what percentage of people meet through friends? sef introduction? family? co-workers? What study is this from?
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35% -friends
32% -self 15% -families 13% -co-workers NHSLS |
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More and more people are meeting..
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On - line
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Positives of meeting online:
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-emotionally safe
-get to know each other before metting -easy -opens up the dating world |
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Negative of meeting online:
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-creepers
-a sence of NOT feeling safe -people lie -have to be cautious when meeting face to face for the first time. -sacrafices dealing with distance. |
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Devolping a realtionship after the intitial contact, usually spurred by similarity
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Building
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A good opening line is a ____
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Compliment
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After the opening line is ...
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small talk
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Superficial kind of conversation that allows the exchange of info but stresses breadth and detail
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Small talk
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After small talk is...
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Exchanging of basic information: name, job, status, age, hometown.
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after exchanging of bsic information is...
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Self disclosure
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the revelation of personal, intimate info
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Self disclosure
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A probing phase of building a realtionship in which people find common ground and check out feelings of attraction
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Surface contact
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Once a realtionship has been established couples seek to find ways to maintain and introduce variety in intrests, increased caring, showing lack of jealously, and general satisfaction.
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Continuation
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A phase in building a realtionship in which members of a couple come to view themselves as a "WE".
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Mutuality
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What is the opposite of love?
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Apathy
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How many people report feeling jealous at some point in a realtionship?
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75%
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Males get more upset over...
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sexual infidelity
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Females get more upset over...
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emotional infidelity
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When a relationship begins to fall apart and becomes less rewarding.
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Deterioration
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Doing something to enhance a realtionship..
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active
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Doing nothing
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Passive
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When there is little satisfaction and when there are alternative partners avalible
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Ending
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Is intamacy the same as sex?
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NO
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Intamacy creates a feeling of being...
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close
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- knowing and liking yourself
- listening and caring - honesty ... are all factors of what? |
Intimacy
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the need for one's partner to promote commitment
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Mutual cyclical growth cycle
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Skillful listerner and speaker, process of encoding and decoding
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Communication
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What promotes pro-realtionship acts?
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Commitment
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The ways couple communicated during conflicts is a key predictor to the survivalability of that relationship:
WHO FOUND THIS? |
Gottman's Findings.
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the tendancy for one partner to help sculpt on in the direction of his or her ideal self.
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Michelangelo Phenomenon
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Sexual self stimulaton. Usually manually or with an outside aid.
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Masterbation
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According to what tradtion was masterbation a sin?
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Judeo- Christian Tradition
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Why was Maturbation a sin to the Judeo Christian's?
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Because of the story of Onan,
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What did Onan do get in trouble?
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He was forced to have sex with his brother's wifer after his brother died. The Goal was to get his wife pregnant.BUT Onan didnt want to do inpregnate his sister-in-law so he pulled and ejacualted on to the floor. "HE SPLIT HIS SEED"
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Onanism and Coitus Interruptus
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Pulling out
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Who got fired for suggesting that young adults masturbate instead of have sex?
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Dr. Jocelyn Elders
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in the 1800's, what period viewed masterbation as physically and mentally harmful?
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Victorian Period
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Dr. Benjamin Rush believed that masturbation lead to...
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"nerveous disease"
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Who thought that whole grian could prevent masturbation?
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Dr. Kellogg and Rev. Sylvester Grahm
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According to ____ research:
nearly all men and ___ women masturbate. |
Kinsey
2/3 |
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Today:
--% of women maturbate --% of men masturbate |
85% women
95% men |
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According to what study found that --% of women and --% of men have NOT masturbated in the last 12 months?
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NHSLS
58% women 37% men |
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At what age do boys start to masturbate?
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12-14
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At what age do girls start to masturbate?
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15-16
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Why do boys start to masturbate first?
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Because they have alanguage set up for it and think it's funny.
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Why do people masturbate?
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To release sexual tension.
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--% of women climax during masturbation
only --% can climax during sex. |
92%
30% |
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How do men masturbate?
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Grip the shaft of the penis and move it in and up and down motion.
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How long does it take for a man to reach orgasm through masturbation?
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1-2 mins.
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How do women masturbate?
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massage the mos, labia minora and clitoris in a circular or back and forth motions.
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Who reports that they have never seen two women masturbate the same way?
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Masters and Johnson
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1 in 5 women use _______ in masturbation.
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vaginal insertation.
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When do people use fantasies? and what for?
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Alone or with a partner.
To enhance sexual excitement |
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Who fantasizes more: men or women?
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Men
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Sexual fantasizing is related to...
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Sex drive
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Most common sexual fantasies invlove...
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Signifigant others
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In sexual fantasies men are ___ and women are ___
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Men = dominant
Women = passive |
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Who is known for sexual excess of the ruling elite?
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Ancient Romans
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Who was bi-sexual?
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Julious Ceasar
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Who threw the orgies in the Ancient Roman times?
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Caligula
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Who see sexual pleasure as a spiritual ideal?
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Hinus
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What relgion wrote the first sex manual and what was it called?
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Hinuism
Karma Sutra |
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To the Hindu's sex was a ___ duty, and was a way to be ____.
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Religious
Reincarnated |
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Physical intercations that are sexually stimulating and set the stage for intercourse.
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Foreplay
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Fore play is normal in about ___ of all cultures.
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1/2
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Foreplay is virtually absent in about __ of cultures and minimal in __ of other cultures.
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1/3
1/10 |
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Who wants longer peroids of foreplay?
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Women
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Less common that oral or manual stimulation.
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Kissing
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Previously unknown to the Japanese, Balinese of the South Pacific
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Kissing
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Mouth closed
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Simple Kissing
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mouth open
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Deep kissing (French)
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Men perfer direct stimulation of what?
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Genitalia
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Who like to give breast stimulation?
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men
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In have had or have preformed oral genital stimulation:
--% of married, college educated --% of high school educated --% of grade school educated |
60% college
20% high school 10% grade school |
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According to what study
--% of men and --% of women have had oral sex in thier life. |
NHSLS
77% men 60% women |
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The coital position in which the man is on top. (Male superior)
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Missionary Position
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Coital position where female is on top.
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Female Superior Position
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Coital Position in the couple are facing one another side by side.
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Lateral Entry
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Coital position in which the male enters from behind.
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Rear Entry
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An intimate bject elicts sexual arousal
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Fetishism
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Name some common fetishistic objects:
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Woman's panties, bra's, lingerie, gloves, shoes, boots, or materials made from rubber, leather, silk, or fur.
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A paraphila in which sexual arousal is exaggerating
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Partialism
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A paraphilia which a person repeatedly cross dreses to achieve sexual arousal or gradification
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Transvestites
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Govener General of New York in 1702 who stole women's clothing
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Lord Cornbury
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As a child, they were humiliated by being dressed in girls clothing,
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Petticoat Punishment
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A paraphilia characterized by persistant, powerful urges to expose one's genitals to unsuspecting strangers. Flashing
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Exhibitionism
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Only - out of - women report that they have run into a flasher,.
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1 out of 3
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The typical exhibitionist is:
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- young
- unhappily married - sexually repressed - usually has difficulty relating to women. |
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What percentage of exhibitionist report haveing an ercertion while flashing?
At what age does this begin ans end? |
50%
in adolcence and ends in the 40's |
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a paraphilia charachterized by the making of obscene phone calls. seek to become sexually aroused by uttering sexual provocations to a nonconsenting person.
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Obscene Phone Caller
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Strong repeated urges to observe unsuspecting strangers who are naked, un dressing, or engaged in a sexual relation.
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Voyeurism
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Do peeping toms care about getting caught or hurt?
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No
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Pain only has erotic value within a sexual context
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Masochism/Sadism
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The NEED for pain or humiliation at achieve sexual arousal
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Masochism
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Being restrained
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Bondage
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the practice of depriving oxygen to enhance sexual arousal.
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Hypoxyphilia
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a mutually gradifying sexual interaction between consenting sex partners in which sexual arousal is associated with the affiction of pain or humiliation
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Sadomasochism
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Master and Slave game
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Sadomasochism
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physical defence mechanisms related to castration anxiety dating back to Oedipus complex.
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Psychoanalytic
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resolving inresulting conflicts
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Primal Scene Voyeurism
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a systematic application of the principals of learning to help people modify problem behavior.
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Behavior therapy
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A method of terminating the connection between the stimulus (fetish object) and an innapropriate response,
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Systematic Desensitization
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A method for terminating undesireable sexual behavior in which the behavior is repreatedly paried with aversive stimulus
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Averision Therapy
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Focuses in helping and individual cope with a member of the opposite sex
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Social Skills Training
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Aims to increase sexual arousal to socially approproate stimuli with orgasmic pleasure.
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Orgasmic Reconditioning
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