Grief And Loss Week 3

Front 1

Earliest memory of loss or death
-what were your reactions
-what were the reactions of those around you
-in what ways did you feel you were supported (and not supported) at the time
-in what ways did this loss experience influence your reaction to subsequent losses in your life

Back 1

wrote our story

Front 2

Reactions of children to grief:
• Anger
• Tantrums
• Physiological changes
• Sleeping troubles
• Denial
• Risk taking behaviour
• Withdrawing/sadness
• Guilt
• Changes in school
• Appetite
• Wishing to die or go to the place the person is
• Excessive concerns for others
• Clinging
• Shut down
• Shut people out

Back 2

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Front 3

Overhead
• Range of frightening and strange feelings following separation from a significant person
• Facts about separation may not be understood properly
• Illogical connects cab be made – may feel responsible for the separation or death
• Few acquired strategies to deal with these emotions
• Situation more complex when principal care giver also affected by loss
Main strategies children can use include:
• Expression of feelings
• Self talk
• Ally therapy (type of behavioural therapy/expression)
• Peer support
• Information gathering
• Emotional ritual

Back 3

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Front 4

what would i tell a 7yr old about death, dying, funerals, grief

Back 4

wrote an answer

Front 5

What they need:
• Our willingness to grieve openly
• For adults to be seen to be doing their grief work
• Clear age appropriate information and honest answers
Our willingness to:
• Reassurance
• Communication that we do not need them to protect us
• Good listeners who do not give advice, platitudes
• Secure environment with stability and some predictability – routine, safety
• Opportunity to process with peers, especially those with similar experience
• Opportunity to say goodbye and be included to plan and participate in rituals
• No comparisons with others and no idealisation of the deceased
• Opportunity to move in and out of grief
• Acknowledgement that we all grieve differently
• To have their ability to cope believed in
• Permission to explore and challenge family/group rules and beliefs around grief.
• Validation of any negatives e.g. if the relationship was abusive, hurtful, conflicted
• Acknowledgement of the pain of past losses
• Permission to grieve in their own way

Back 5

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Front 6

The stages of grief a person experiences about their own death??

Back 6

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance

Front 7

What are the 6 R's in relation to grief??

Back 7

Recognise, React, Recollect, Relinquish, Readjust, Reinvest

Front 8

Define Fetal death??

Back 8

The delivery of a child weighing at least 400 gms at delivery, which did not after delivery, breathe or show signs of life.

Front 9

Describe the grief process for developmental stage (0-2 yrs of age)

Back 9

Infants suffer from the grief of caregivers. The grief stricken family are not as attuned to the baby as they were previously.

Front 10

Describe the grief process for Preoperational stage (2-7 yrs of age)

Back 10

Experience of death often through pets,birds,bugs, see people die on tv, and heard spoken about. Associate death by ghosts,etc. Know what death is but not going to affect them personally.

Front 11

Describe the grief process for concrete operation stage. (7-12 Yrs)

Back 11

More realistic in understanding of death. Known it cant be reversed and that everyone dies. bereaved kids at this stage act by misbehaving and attention seeking.

Front 12

Describe possible reactions to death for formal operational stage. (12yrs +)

Back 12

excessive concern to others, sleeplessness or constant sleep, family withdrawl spending more time alone, wanting to be round family more, risk taking behaviours, rebelling against authority, poor concentration, etc

Front 13

What are the 3 myths of child bereavement??

Back 13

1. Children dont grieve
2. Children experience few losses
3. Childhood is the happiest time of ones life.