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Passion Cluster: Three Parts (F,SD,E)
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Encompasses three related characteristics: fascination, sexual desire, and exclusiveness
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Caring Cluster (two components)
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Two components: being an advocate for one's partner and giving the utmost
Advocate for one's partner means being supportive and defending the other. Giving the utmost- can even be to almost a self-sacrifice |
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Commitment
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a cognitive attachment to another person
Develops over time beginning slowly and increasing at a faster rate if the relationship is positive! |
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Intimacy
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Involves sharing feelings and providing emotional support
Self-disclosure, deepens as relationship matures |
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Passion
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usually expressed by kissing, touching, and being affectionate
sexual interactions, psychological arousal |
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Love Triangle
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Commitment, Intimacy, and Passion
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How many types of love relationships are there?
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Eight!
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Non-love
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Occurs when there is no commitment, intimacy or passion
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Liking
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begins when there is just intimacy, but no commitment or passion
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Sitting at the bar :)
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Infatuation
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involves passion only
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So like a one night stand or hooking up... ewwww
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Empty Love (One...)
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Commitment but NO passion or intimacy
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Ashton and Keith
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Romantic Love (Two...)
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BOTH intimacy and passion but no commitment
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Svea !
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Fatuous Love (Two...)
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When a couple is committed on the basis of passion, but hasn't had the time to develop TRUE INTIMACY
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Ginny and Chris
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Companion-ate Love (Two...)
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more characteristic of couples that have been married for years; have BOTH commitment and intimacy but LACK passion that they had BEFORE
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Consummate Love
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COMPLETE LOVE! :) All three- what every couple desires
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Mike and Kate
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Jealousy raaaaaaaar
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Emotional response to a real or perceived threat to a valued relationship
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Always a possibility in relationships!
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Intimate experience
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feel close or share yourself with another person
Ie: a close philosophic discussion can be a very intellectually intimate experience |
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Intimate relationship
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is one in which share intimate experiences in several areas over time
Ie: time consuming |
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ENRICH inventory: (developing intimacy in couple relationships)
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PREPARE ENRICH: A comprehensive marital inventory containing 125 questions in categories that are relevant to married couples and their satisfaction with their relationship
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Enriching
Relationship Issues Communication Happiness |
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Findings of the ENRICH inventory: Five areas!
(HINT: CCFPC) |
Communication
Closeness Flexibility Personality Issues Conflict Resolution |
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Destructive Intimacy games
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Concealing what they really want and attempting instead to manipulate the partner into doing or giving them what they want
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Zero-sum game
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WINNER and a LOSER and is competetive
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Constructive Intimacy games
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Can be POSITIVE or NEGATIVE:
NEGATIVE: Focusing on what you're NOT getting rather than how they benefit from one another. WHICH; Becomes a negative cycle... |
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TWO TYPES OF DESTRUCTIVE INTIMACY GAMES:
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1) "I don't care, you decide"
2) "The ties that bind" |
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"I don't care, you decide"
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When the other person says that they do not care when they really do.
Will sometimes agree to do things that they do not want to do. |
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"The ties that bind"
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Associate with parents-to-grown-children. Parents who are frustrated with their dwindling contact with their adult children.
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Ie: in-law jokes
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Limiting the destructive games: Four of these (NMUI)
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Naming the game
Making Implicit Rules Explicit Unveiling Game Strategies Identifying Disguised Objectives |
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Naming the game:
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"If you really loved me you'll know what I want...", we are all guilty of this one!
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Making Implicit (secret) Rules Explicit
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ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT! Be specific
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Unveiling Game Strategies
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"What is wrong?"
"Oh nothing..." BULLSHIT! Call them out and tell them they are playing games whether they know it or not |
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Identifying Disguised Objectives
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Do NOT disguise what you really WANT. Don't imply or encourage your partner by persuasion; rather, just tell them what you want.
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Attachment Theory:
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focuses on how children develop attachment to their caregivers; usually their parents in INFANCY
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The most important part: child needs to develop attachment to one caregiver in order for normal development of SOCIAL and EMOTIONAL aspects
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Attachment Theory also important because...
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it is kind of the basis of future relationships: friendships, relationships, etc.
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Divorce rate is approximately...
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50%
People are often single after periods of divorce. |
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Single-hood
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the state of being unmarried, divorced, or unattached to another person
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What percentage of women between 19-44 have cohabited?
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50%
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