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58 Cards in this Set
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coming together
initiating stage |
where you decide whether or not to begin a relationship
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coming together
experimenting |
share info to see if they have anything in common
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coming together
intensifying |
become more exclusive, "we" and "us"
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coming together
integrating |
share self-symbols, take on partners characteristics, become more alike
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coming together
bonding |
ceremony that publicly communicates the commitments the partner has made, marriage
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falling apart
differentiating |
re-assert identity, separate interests, increase in conflict
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falling apart
circumscribing |
safe communication
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falling apart
stagnating |
avoid new topics for fear of negative outcome
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falling apart
avoiding |
avoid contact physically and psychologically
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falling apart
terminating |
ending the relationship
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kinetics
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the study of body movement and gesture
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kinetics
emblems |
gestures that have a direct verbal translation
ex: thumbs up |
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illustrators
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kinetics - nonverbal symbols that adds meaning to verbal messages
ex: fingers to show age |
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kinetics
regulators |
help with conversational interactions
ex: raise hand |
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kinetics
affect displays |
behaviors that show one's emotional state
ex: smile, crying |
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kinetics
adapters |
usually unconscious movements done under times of stress, anxiety, or boredom
ex: tap pencil, twirl hair, shake leg |
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kinetics
courtship readiness cues |
nonverbal cues we do when we are trying to impress the opposite sex
ex: suck in stomach, stand up straight |
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paralanguage
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the use of and characteristics of human voice
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proxemics
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space
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haptics
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touch
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chromemics
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how use of time communicates
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chromemics
biological time orientations (circadian rhythms) |
when you function best
ex: morning person, night owl |
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chromemics
punctuality |
being on time
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chromemics
timing |
how we sequence information, or how rapidly we move from one message to another
ex: time to return phone call or email |
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denotative
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official meaning of a word, explicit
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connotative
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suggested meanings, the implied meaning of the word
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language
hesitations |
um, er, ah
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language
hedges |
"i guess..."
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language
tag questions |
"i'm a good golfer, aren't i?"
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language
polite forms |
appreciate, please
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language
intensifiers |
"i like you very, very much"
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language
disclaimers |
"i may not be an expert in this..."
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accusatory language
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any wording that implies the other is at fault, responsible, or to blame for a negative occurrence
ex: you make me so mad when you don't put the dishes in the dishwasher |
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functions of SD
informational |
the messages is straightforward and intended to give the receiver certain information the sender thinks is important
ex: email that you won't be in class |
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functions of SD
expressive/therapeutic |
when you disclose to relieve pent up emotions or feelings
ex: got a 4.9 - call parents |
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functions of SD
impression management |
disclosing to create or maintain a certain image that the course/sender wants to have
ex: tell boss certain things at lunch |
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functions of SD
clarification |
when SD is used to help the source understand him/herself better
ex: talking out loud, use friends as "sounding boards" |
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levels of disclosive messages
opinions |
disclosure in which we express our thoughts and views on a subject
ex: democrat vs republican |
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levels of disclosive messages
expressed feelings |
statements of how you feel about something or how you felt about something in the past
ex: i was really sad when i broke up with my high school boyfriend |
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levels of disclosive messages
shared feelings |
state the emotions you are feeling right now about the situation you are in or the person you are with
ex: i feel sad when yo walk by and don't acknowledge |
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functions of listening
informational |
listen to get information from other people
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functions of listening
job-related |
sometimes our job is to listen
ex: counselors |
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functions of listening
relational |
listening is imperative in relationships, is a reciprocal activity
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components of listening
attention |
motivation, schemas help us pay attention, women pay more attention
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components of listening
reception |
hearing aspect of listening
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components of listening
perception |
how we understand and interpret the messages we have received
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problems with relational listening
pseudo-listening |
when people appear to be listening, but truly are not
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problems with relational listening
information load |
humans can effectively process 400-600 words per minute, but the typical speaker talks about 150 words per minute
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problems with relational listening
other orientation |
when we are listening, we have to pay attention to the other person
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problems with relational listening
time consuming |
listening takes a lot of time and effort
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problems with relational listening
receiver anxiety - situational |
associated with listening in specific situations
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problems with relational listening
receiver anxiety - trait receiver |
continuing apprehension about receiving information
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backchanneling
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giving verbal cues that indicate active listening
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SOLER
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squarely, open, lean, eye contact, relax
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emotional laden language
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words that heighten our emotional responses and disrupt info processing
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own it
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"i feel..."
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name it
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sexy, annoyed, bored, jubliant
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locate it
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"...when i see a sunny day in morgantown."
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