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26 Cards in this Set
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Markers
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Signs of some sort that indicate the state of the relationship, objects or interactions
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Example of a Marker
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Engagement Ring, calling each other pet names, holdings hand, wearing matching clothes and wedding rings
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Relational Development
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Communication moves the relationship forward, we can identify the state that a relationship is at by observing the communication
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Turning Point
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Markers often signal these, a specific event or interaction that is associated with change in the relationship, often inspires discussion about where the relationship is at
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Example of a Turning Point
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First kiss, first time saying 'I love you', first fight, first trip together
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Initiating
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Going up - you notice the other, little direct interaction, attempts made to show interest, passive strategies for gaining information, keeping the relationship moving, must be mutual in order to be relational
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Experimenting
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Going up - interaction is routine, lots of standard questions (small talk), search for common ground, safe and superficial topics
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Intensifying
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Going up - more risky self disclosure, spend more time together, increased physical contact, increased number of shared activities
-this is where you may encroach on activities that are less superficial (religion and politics) |
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Integrating
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Going up - the individuals take on an identity as a social unit, holidays and significant events spent together, routine and rituals are developed, personalized language (shared meanings/ idioms)
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Idioms
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Calling someone a pet name
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Bonding
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Top floor - partners turn to each other for confirmation and acceptance of self-concept, commitment to maintain relationship, public displays of the relationship (marriage)
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Relational De-escalation
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Women usually sense trouble before men do, specific verbal and nonverbal cues of de-escalation, decrease in touching proximity, eye contact, smiling, voice variation and interaction, couples come apart either through intertia or through the choice of one or both partners
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Pattern of De-escalating
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DCSAT
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Differentiating
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Going Down - become distinct, more reference to I and me than we and us, partners tend to define their lives more as individuals and less as a couple, language indicates a move away from the shared identity, some stress is felt int the relationship but people still care, doesn't require both people to participate
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Circumscribing
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Going down - communication decreases in quantity and quality, subtle hints of dissatisfaction grow evident, members may withdraw from arguing and do not discuss the declining state of the relationship, a shrinking of interest and commitment, still potentially willing to work on the relationship, cutting away thing/ the relationship itself
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Stagnating
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Going down - relationship loses its life, partners don't care, decreased physical contact, decreased communication, going through the motions but salvageable, moving into seperate bedrooms, moving out entirely, crisis may spark change, finding intimacy elsewhere could be the threat that leads to greater decline or could lead to an effort to repair the relationship, couples can stay in this state for the rest of their relationship without divorcing or having affairs
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Avoiding
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Going down - decreasing interactions, increasing physical, emotional, psychological distance, decreasing dependence on each other for confirmation of self concept, avoiding is the opposite of initiating, examples: leaving early, coming home late, screening calls, workoholic
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Terminating
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Bottom of the escalator - partners make an intentional decision to end the relationship, negotiation of division of possessions, redefinition of self as separate from the other person, we have to communicate the change to others (and ourselves)
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Why Do we Form Relationships
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Appearance, Similarity, Complementarity, Rewards, Competence, Proximity, Disclosure
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Appearance
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Influence of physical appearance in the early stages of the relationship is highly important
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Similarity
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Someone who likes the same things as you, does the things that you do, same race, economic class, or educational standing,
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Social Exchange Theory
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the practice of seeking out people who can give us rewards greater than the costs of dealing with them
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Comparison Level
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CL - a minimum standard of acceptable behaviour
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Comparison level of Alternatives
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CL2 - a comparison between rewards in the present situation and those one could expect to receive from others
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Proximity
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Likely to develop relationships with people who share the same spaces with us, coworkers, classmates, people in apartment building
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Dialectical Tensions in Relationships
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Conflicts that arise when two opposing or incompatible forces exist simultaneously
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