Communication 1 Ch.s 1-9

Front 1

disruptive power

Back 1

the power one persob has to keep the other from doing what he or she wants to do.
ex. If lauren likes to go to the movies and paul likes to watch sports at home,and lauren has more disruptive power then they will go to the movies more.

Front 2

interrole conflict

Back 2

occupying two or more roles that entail contradictory exceptions about a given behavior.
ex. suppose you are proctoring an exam, you see a friend taking the exam and cheating, you feel as a proctor you should report the cheating but as a friend there is a certain loyalty.

Front 3

intrarole conflicts

Back 3

contradictory exceptions concerning a single role.
ex. marie and jessie ae good friends. marie tells jessie that she wants to drop out of school and move in with her boyfriend. jessie feels that as a friend she is a good listener, someone who does not interfere but allows the other person to clarify her feelings. She also thinks a good friend should be truthful but she is afraid of being intrusive or meddling. she does not know how to respond

Front 4

dialectical approach

Back 4

views relationships in terms of sets of contradictory or opposing impulses that create tension between two people.
ex. the pull between the need to feel seperate from the other person and the need to feel connected in relationships. But such tensions do not have negative connotations.

Front 5

Baxter's "Me-we pull"

Back 5

romantic partners feel the need to be independent and their desire to be with their partner which causes tension. Thus making a pull between connection and autonomy.

Front 6

Neff and Harter's autonomy, connectedness, and mutuality

Back 6

autonomy is linked to worst psychological outcomes with parents (in terms of relationship satisfaction, self-worth, and depression) and mutuality was linked to the best outcomes with romantic partners and best friends.

Front 7

certainty/ uncertainty

Back 7

certainty is the idea that you can depend on someone. usually better in friendships.
uncertainty is being unpredictable which goes good with relationships that are romantic

Front 8

self-disclosure

Back 8

intetionally making known information about oneself

Front 9

Johari window

Back 9

derives from the first names of the two psychologists who developed it (joseph luft and harry ingram. model offers a way of intrapersonal and interpersonal affairs

Front 10

open quadrant

Back 10

reflects your general openess to the world, your willingness to be known. It compromises all aspects of yourself known to you and to others. basis for most two person communication

Front 11

blind quadrant

Back 11

consists of all things about yourself that other people perceive but that are not accessible to you.
ex. tend to monopolize conversation unwittingly, or you think of yourself as witty but your friends dont.

Front 12

hidden quadrant

Back 12

your the one that exercises discretion. made up of all things you prefer not to disclose to someone else, whether they concern yourself or other people: your salary, parents' divorce. limits input or info about yourself.

Front 13

unknown quadrant

Back 13

completely unknown; represents everything about yourself that has never been explored, either by you or other people.

Front 14

dyadic effect

Back 14

when one person discloses something about himself or herself to another, he or she tends to elicit a reciprocal level of openess in the second person.
ex. Jourard's principle: one person's intimate disclosure encourages intimate disclosure by listener.

Front 15

attachment style: secure

Back 15

secure people are comfortable with intimacy and dependence, they are easy to know and have few self-doubts. relationship with parents warm

Front 16

attachment style: avoidant

Back 16

closeness makes avoidant people uncomfortable. they fear the intimacy of close relationships and find it difficult to depend on others. not very accepting of romantic partners. avoidant people describe their mothers as cold and rejecting.

Front 17

attachment style: anxious-ambivalent

Back 17

yearn for extremely close relationships, anxious-ambivalent people have many fears about being abandoned and unloved. Troubled by self doubt and may feel misunderstood. great need for love push others away

Front 18

triangular theory of love

Back 18

robert sternberg argues that love has three distinct components: intimacy, passion, and commitment

Front 19

ch 6.
unresponsiveness

Back 19

failure to acknowledge or deny the presense of conflict following a statement or inquiry about the conflict by a partner
ex. i still dont think you fixed the car. what if it stalls on the highway again? you'll manage

shifting and avoiding topics

Front 20

semantic focus

Back 20

the person trying to avoid the conflict focuses on what is being said, then makes statements about what the word means or how to characterize the ongoing conflict and this discussion of words.
terminology or "semantics" replaces the original conflict issue.

Front 21

postponement

Back 21

two people put off discussing the conflict to a later date

Front 22

competition

Back 22

one party tries to use agression or power to beat the other party

Front 23

presumptive attribution

Back 23

making statements that attribute to the other person's feelings, thoughts or motives taht he or she does not achknowlege
ex: "your just saying that to make me angry"

Front 24

prescription

Back 24

the confrontational person makes requests or demands, threatens, or argues for a given behavior change in the other person that presumably would resolve the conflict
ex. "get the job done by tomorrow or im not paying"

Front 25

qualification

Back 25

involves limiting the subject at issue