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52 Cards in this Set
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Why do we form relationships? |
Appearance, similarity, complementarity, reciprocal attraction, competence, disclosure, proximity, and rewards. |
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Appearance is... |
...The primary basis of attraction |
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Similarities... |
...Create longer lasting relationships |
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Complementarity... |
...Differences strengthen a relationship |
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Reciprocal attraction is... |
...The attraction to a person who likes you |
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Competence... |
...Is something that we like to be around but not too much |
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Disclosure... |
...Helps to build liking |
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With proximity... |
...we are likely to develop relationships with people we interact with frequently |
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We get rewards... |
...by seeking out the people who can give them to us |
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A [BLANK] statement must be intentional, significant, & not otherwise known. |
Self-disclosure |
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Small talk typically occurs during the [BLANK] stage of an interpersonal relationship? |
Initiating stage |
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We are more attracted to people who are good at what they do but admit their mistakes? |
True |
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The 2 ingredients in a successful self-disclosure are? |
Reciprocity & Timing |
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When trying to decide whether a relationship with another person is no longer "worth the effort" we are using what? |
The Social Exchange Formula |
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The best predictor of whether a couple will be friends after reaching the terminating stage is what? |
Whether or not there was positive communication during the break-up |
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"I was feeling trapped" is communication that characterizes what dialectical tension? |
Connection-autonomy |
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The stage where parties act in old, familiar ways & no growth occurs is? |
Stagnating |
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What is: Constantly changing Needs ongoing maintenance to keep them satisfying Are affected by culture Typically progress from one stage to another |
Relationships |
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Physical intimacy is the best type of relational intimacy? |
False |
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Lies help us avoid embarrassment? |
True |
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What represents both the breadth & the depth of your self-disclosure with another person? |
The Social Penetration Model |
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What is a useful goal for those trying to improve a relationship? |
Constant self-disclosure |
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What are "the single most important source of life satisfaction & emotional well-being, across different ages & cultures"? |
Close relationships |
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What model: Shows ways in which a relationship can be more or less intimate Suggests how relationships can operate on superficial or more personal levels Defines a relationship in terms of its breadth & depth Helps identify why relationships are strong or weak |
The Social Penetration Model by Altman & Taylor |
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The stage where a couple might come up with "our song"? |
Integrating |
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Different types of intimacy: |
Physical, intellectual, emotional, & shared activities |
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Confirming communication: |
Recognition, acknowledgment, endorsment |
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Disconfirming responses: |
Impervious, interrupting, irrelevant, tangential, impersonal, ambiguous, & incongrous |
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Impervious responses: |
Not acknowledging the other person's message |
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Interrupting responses: |
Can show a lack of concern about what the other person has to say |
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Irrelevant responses: |
a comment unrelated to what the other person has just said |
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Tangential responses: |
Instead of ignoring the speaker's remarks completely, the other party uses them as a starting point for a shift to a different topic |
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Impersonal responses: |
Are loaded with cliches & other statements that never truely respond to the speaker |
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Ambiguous responses: |
Message with one or more meanings, leaving the other party unsure of the responder's position. |
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Incongruous responses: |
Contains 2 messages that seem to deny or contradict each other. |
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Endorsement is the strongest type of confirming message? |
True |
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Acknowledging others means that you are interested in their ideas? |
True |
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Endorsement means that you agree with their ideas? |
True |
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Neutrality can also be described as? |
Indifference |
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Evaluative language is also described as? |
"You" language |
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The term to describe the emotional tone of a personal relationship is? |
Climate |
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Defensiveness is the process of protecting your? |
Presenting Self |
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Gibb's categories provide a useful way for us to examine our? |
Defensive & supportive behaviors |
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Definition of "Conflict": |
An expressed struggle between at least 2 interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, & interference from the other party in achieving their goals --William Wilmot & Joyce Hocker |
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What is a perceived scarce resource? |
Time |
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What is interdependence? |
When the parties are dependent on each other |
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What are Constructive Conflict Skills? |
Identifying the problem & unmet needs, making a date, describing your problems & your needs, considering your partners POV, negotiating a solution, and having a follow up solution. |
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What are the Conflict Styles? |
Avoiding, accommodating, competing, collaborating, & compromising |
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Avoiding (Lose-Lose) |
When people non-assertively ignore or stay away from conflict |
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Accommodating (Lose-Win) |
When you allow others to have their way rather than asserting your own POV |
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Collaborating (Win-Win) |
Collaborators show a high degree of concern for both themselves & others; focus on "our way"; everyone gets what they want. |
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Compromising (partial Lose-Lose) |
Gives both people at least some of what they want; although both sacrifice part of their goals |
