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How do you not react wrong or with surprise to a crisis circumstance?
God’s Will Act consistent with who you are.
VS. Outside of God’s will:
Tension and unrest will occur
1 Jn 1:9
What can happen if you try to “feel” there pain or try to help people out of their pain?
You may get into God’s way b/c He may want them to hurt for a little while.
What you should you say and not say to a person in a crisis/sickness ituation . . .
Be honest with the people involved: If they are sick don’t say, “It will be okay;” actualize that it is a “bad situation” this gives you an open door for ministry to the family.
Principal to remember when beginning to counsel somone.
Concern is more than just sympathizing
What is Sympathetic Agreement and how should you go about it?
Agreeing for a "short time" with the counselee to identify with them.
 Example: sharing hopelessness for a short time with a person, then turn it around with the hope God has to bring them out.
What is Sympathetic disagreement and how do you go about it?
 It is only by countering perplexity, hopelessness, fear, with Biblical alternatives that a counselor maintains his/her integrity as a Biblical counselor.
 Have the determination to not be consumed with the emotion of the situation. Then you render yourself worthless in helping the person come to the truth of the Bible
 Learning and knowing how deeply to enter the emotional situation without assuming a stance with is over against the counselee’s helplessness. Not based on feelings. Articulate God’s solution
 We must hold the conviction that a Biblical help will make a difference
What do you say to someone about to kill themselves and asks, "Give me a good reason why I shouldn't kill myself."
I can think of …. different reasons, but they are not going to seem as important as what you have been thinking about over the past few hours, let me come over and lets talk about this.
When a person is in the depths of depression do they usually kill themselves?

3. When you are helping a person out of the hole make sure they know you are helping them on your terms, not theirs.
NO.

They kill themselves once they are coming out of the hole
How do you know when a person is NOT serious about killing themselves?
Ask a person how they are thinking of doing it?

If they don’t have a precise answer, they probably are not serious about it.
How do you know when a person IS serious about killing themselves.
If they have an articulated plan, then there is a problem.
What is a crisis?
1. A crisis is any circumstance in which a person senses a need to respond in which he believes his response will have a life changing effect. – Jay Adams
What is a crisis?
Crisis’s is characterized by anxiety, self blame and frequently a sense of personal failure and guilt which leads to a constricted perspective on accumulating problems.
What is a crisis?
Situational crises are reactions to the serious frustrations that are produced by specific external events, such as marriage disruptions, job failure, etc.
What is a crisis?
A crisis is the disequilibrium produced by a perceived threat or adjustment that we find difficult to handle.
What is a crisis?
Crisis events can be characterized by changes in our world that necessitates emotional adjustments on our parts. Usually they are produced by sudden or unexpected events, however they sometimes are produced by anticipated happenings.
What are the categories of crisis?
Dispositional kind of Crisis –
Anticipated Life Transitions –Sudden Traumatic Stress-
Maturational/Developmental –
Psychiatric Emergencies -
What is a Dispositional kind of Crisis?
The person is distress, they may be experiencing anxiety, anger, distress b/c of a particular external problematic situation. The problem can be removed by direct means.
Example: The person has lost their home b/c of fire.
Help: Refer them to an agency that helps with home loss, contact church for money etc
Preparation: Have the agencies, people and accesses to the money and lodging already available or set up for emergency use.
What is an Anticipated Life Transitions Crisis?
Normal occurrences that are expected in life
Example: Moving, changing jobs, marriage and children
Help:
What is a Sudden Traumatic Stress Crisis?
An external event that triggers a very rapid reaction that causes distress, anxiety, depression and functional breakdown.
Example: Job loss, sudden divorce, death or another event that seems threatening
What is a Maturational/Developmental Crisis?
People are intended to mature of the span of their lives. There is a physical and spiritual and emotionally transition. If there are emotional/spiritual/ physical issues and a crisis comes, they do not react normally.
Example: Being overly depended of someone, not exhibiting mature emotions, not maturing in their values; they spend money foolishly, do stupid things to make them feel better. Values are ermined by more than just desires. Lack of self-discipline: prayer, Bible study witnessing, Christian disciplines.
What is Psychiatric Crisis?
Emergencies - When people are becoming psychotic or abnormally irrational. Example: Going Crazy
Help: Send the person to the psychiatric hospital
What is Changing Homeostasis?
(change of body temperature) if Homeostasis is interrupted it can seriously hurt you.
The relative balance of forces called, some see crisis as a different Homeostasis changes dramatically in a person’s life and it causes anxiety.
After the crisis the normal Homeostasis can change and stay at a different level for a long period of time. Some will return to the original Homeostasis.
Causes of Crisis Situations:
1. Past life experiences;
2. Social Support
3. Coping Skills vs. Overcoming Skills
4. Perception of the Crisis
5. World View:
6. Understanding the Purpose of Crisis
7. Creative Solutions
There is an _________ element present within a crisis.
emergency
The counseling approach is somewhat limited by the _____________:
emergency elements
What is the goal of dealing with emergency elements of a crisis?
Eliminate the elements of urgency and emergency, in order to allow for fuller approaches of counseling.
How do you start when dealing with a failing marriage in a crisis situation?
Marriage bad twenty years: Rebuild from scratch
How do you start when dealing with a newlywed marriage that is starting out bad in a crisis situation?
Newlyweds bad start: Do premarital counseling
Examples of causes for Crises that occur from
Specific Direction of God:
Job Loss or Gain
Moving
Marriage
Conversion
School
Examples of causes for Crises that occur from Natural Progression of Creation:
Natural Disasters/ Hurricanes
Birth of a child
Death
Aging
Sickness/Hospitalization
Launching Children/Empty Nest
Examples of crisis caused by Spiritual Deprivation:
Victim of a crime
Disappointment in a spiritual leader/backslides
Rape/Sexual Abuse
Financial Loss
Personal sin/sin against you
We don’t want to consider crisis being good or bad according to its . . . .
origin
God uses crisis as a tool to carry out His purposes even when the purpose . . .
is not noticeable in the center of it.
Crisis events always put us in a place of response . . .
To reject or accept it.
In reacting to Crisis, this becomes the important aspect in the end;
do you react in your own strength (carnal) or in spiritual maturity (relying on God).
Our role is to remove . . .
the emergency element
How do you deal with Dispositional Crisis?
Send them to an agency of some sort to help them get first needs met – shelter, food, law enforcement
What is a Spiritual Resource that can be shared with someone in Crisis?
Whatever the crisis God is in control and His purpose will prevail over the crisis.
Reinforce our ultimate hope is in . . .
God Himself
They will react what is in their heart:
Faith or doubt in God
What question can you ask a suicidal person about after they die?
Suicide: Ask them – “Are you sure you are going to heaven?”
The Bible has given us His Word as direction . . .
for our behavior and thinking
Scriptures to Give
Prov 16:3 Rom 8:27-29, John 14:27, Ep;h 2:13-14; Phil 4:6-7
Building a Framework for Crisis Counseling – 3 Things
A - Analysis
I - Inventory
D - Direction
Crises always come with varieties of circumstances; give four examples of what some people bring to a counselor.
Some people imagine things and think it is a crisis, to justify unbiblical behavior

Some are real crisis

Some are contrived crisis to manipulate people or to avoid responsibility

Some come from background or life experience
The work of analysis is to . . .
. . .find out what is working in the life of this person.
Determine the nature of the crisis in ____________ before you develop a scriptural strategy to help the person.
Biblical terms
Your sin is never justified by . . .
another’s behavior
Test your life to see whether it is . . .
Biblical
If you base your strategy on a bad _______ then it won’t work.
“Tilting at windmills”.
analysis
Analyze what they present, then . . .
. . . move them Biblically to the root of the crisis.
Ask seriously and answer thoroughly out of a very careful study of the situation . . .
What is the person facing?
What is the Biblical category?
Crisis calls for ...
analysis
How we know ________ will help us be ready for times of crisis.
scripture
The word ________ is breaking apart the situation into its own individual parts.
Analysis
Every crisis has parts, aspects or elements that for the purposes of understanding__________.
A solution can be separated in some sense.
People get overwhelmed with the forest, when they ...

2. It is an error to impose an artificial structure upon the crisis situation which forces you to set each and every crisis in the same way.

3. Deal with immediate concerns in crisis counseling; safety, food, shelter etc. Separate the things out in front of them and focus on the most important thing. Then all the other things will not look so big. Keep focus on the Lord, the problem can then be handled well. If the focus is on yourself, you can’t minister.

4. When you need to divide stuff
1. If the person continually talks of the enormity of the crisis
2. When they are confused of the complexity of the crisis.
3. When the counselee is worried about having to do what is realistic on a given day. “What if” language is evident – help them take it apart and prioritize it; make a list.
4. When they complain of unfairness and blaming others/God
5. The temporal prosperity of the wicked must not be contrasted with the suffering of the believer.
need to just work on one tree at a time.
This is our job to ____________ the separate situations for the person.
compartmentalize
It is an error to impose an artificial structure upon the crisis situation which . . .
forces you to set each and every crisis in the same way.
Deal with immediate concerns in crisis counseling . . .
safety, food, shelter etc.

Separate the things out in front of them and focus on the most important thing.

Then all the other things will not look so big.
Keep focus on the Lord, the problem can then be handled well. If the focus is on yourself, you can’t minister.
When you need to divide stuff:
1. If the person continually talks of the enormity of the crisis
2. When they are confused of the complexity of the crisis.
3. When the counselee is worried about having to do what is realistic on a given day. “What if” language is evident – help them take it apart and prioritize it; make a list.
4. When they complain of unfairness and blaming others/God
5. The temporal prosperity of the wicked must not be contrasted with the suffering of the believer.
Analysis will give you the ability to separate . . .
emotion from reality


Example: My life is over! I am going to die! I won’t make it!
Include God in the process; ask God for ___________
supernatural wisdom and a scripture to help this person. Don’t just give them
Have a familiarity with scripture so that you can __________
bring a scripture to the person when it is needed. ***Don’t be superficial***
Intrude Dynamically with the ___________ – Bring them what they really need.
scriptures

Example: Ask them if they believe what the scripture says.
The reason why Christians freeze in crisis is ________
because they view it essentially as an unbeliever/ outside of God and outside of His purpose.
To Acknowledge God as sovereign over the crisis ______________; God is in control. 1Cor 10:13
Limits the crisis...
If God is in the Crisis there is ________ to it. He will instruct.
meaning
What to tell a person in crisis in regards to God's Soverienty
No trial is unique, others have gone through it before you, there is hope and responsibility in that fact.
b. Every trial is uniquely fitted to each Christian, not exceeds its ability to bare if handled in God’s way. Again there is hope and responsibility in it.
c. God will deliver His children from the trial, it will not continue on and on, there will be a way out; whether by rescue from it, change within it or solution to it.
3. The presence of God in a crisis means there is ___________available to meet the crisis.
adequate strength
4. Christ has proven Himself to be faithful ___________ our needs when it is needed
to provide
The person will be able to sort out the problem Biblically if they know...
Christ has proven Himself to be faithful to provide our needs when it is needed
As soon as someone dies or any other crises; after the initial shock what do you do?
Look at God and His sovereignty.
5 Activities which will help them get a grasp of the Facts – G.R.A.S.P.
Gather – Gather Information
Reassess – Sort out
Assess – Is it as serious as the person perceives
Sort – Give priority and sort
Program – Give a program
Mnemonic Device
A.I.D.

G.R.A.S.P.
Gather
G – It is essential to gather the facts of the situation – ignore the feelings
a. Gathering data during a crisis can be very difficult comparing to other times because of the emotions. Be patient and get it as you can.
b. Start asking questions of other people b/c the information is usually more accurate
c. The KEY WORD to Gathering information is ADAPT by talking to others and being patient to get the answers
d. Ask these questions:
1. What has happened?
2. What has been done so far?
3. How can I help?
Reinterpret
R – Reinterpret the gathered facts for the counselee in Biblical terms
As the counselor you will be interested in:
1. The words and phrases they use
2. How they understand their circumstances.
3. What they are trying to say.
Example: hopelessness, helplessness
4. Talk about the “facts” back to the person
CAUTION in reinterpreting
CAUTION!!! When reinterpreting make sure you don’t reinterpret in a way that in effect you minimize the severity of the problem; take every problem most seriously, but insist the counselee take God and His promises most seriously.
Assess
– Through analysis the counselor will help the person Assess the facts

Assess the immediate problems and take care of them
 Put down the gun
 Unpack your bags

What are the more simple issues and the more complex? What has the greater or lesser consequence?

Dr. Cat - Take care of the hardest first.

Adams says look at the easiest first.
Sorting and Sifting
S – Sorting and Sifting: Gathering and reinterpreting and assessing the facts, certain data will fall out as uncertain, tentative; possibly more matters of emotions than facts. Conjecture or speculation and even bizarre. All these must be Sorted and Sifted out from the working data.

As an objective outsider you can sort and sift what is going on; this can take out the emotion of the moment.

Don’t become a part of the situation with becoming over-emotional.
Decide before you even go in there that you won’t lose it.
Programming
P – The Programming of factual data that remains in the sieve for discussion, decision and reaction. This data must be scheduled according to interpretation. Scheduling and priority setting that is absolutely important for settling the agenda and bringing structure.