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47 Cards in this Set
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close relationships
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important, interdependent, long lasting
- can arouse positive or negative feelings |
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attraction, 3 parts of it
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initial desire to form a relationship
- proximity, familiarity, physical attraction |
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proximity
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geographic, residential, etc
- people near each others are more likely to get acquainted |
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mere exposure effect
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an increase in positive feelings toward a novel stimulus (person) based on frequent experience
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order of values in males and females
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males= intelligence, good looks, humour
female= humour, intelligence, honesty |
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4 categories of attractiveness
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1) neonate features (women)
2) mature features (men) 3) expressiveness 4) grooming |
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expressive traits
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large smile (friendliness) high set eyebrows (interest and agreeableness)
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grooming qualities
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things people use to enhance their appearance
- cosmetics, hairstyle, clothing, accessories |
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matching hypothesis
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people of similar levels of physical attractiveness gravitate toward each other
- you will pair up with someone in your "league" |
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parental investment theory
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a species mating patterns depend on what each sex has to invest- in the way of time, energy, and survival risk- to produce and nurture offspring
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reciprocal liking
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liking those who show that they like you
- responding positively when others flatter you, do favours, etc - self-fulfilling prophecy at work |
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similarity
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birds of the same feather flock together more often than opposites attract
- both in friendships and relationships people (1) sort for dissimilarity, avoid people dissimilar then (2) gravitate towards similar ones in the remaining group |
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relationship maintenance
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actions and activities used to sustain the desired quality of a relationship
- can be spontaneous (calling) or planned (take a trip) |
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minding
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active and ongoing process of continuous mutual self-disclosure and maintain relationship enhancing beliefs and attributions about one's partner
- associated with satisfying relationships |
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interdependence (social) exchange theory
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interpersonal relationships are governed by perceptions of the rewards and of costs exchanged in interactions
rewards= emotional support, sexual gratification, status costs= time and energy, emotional conflicts |
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comparison level
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one's personal standard of what constitutes an acceptable balance of rewards and costs in the relationship
- influenced by exposure to fictional relationships |
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investments
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things people contribute to a relationship that they can't get back if it ends
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friendships between genders
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same gender friendships= value intimacy
womens friendships= emotionally based mens friendships= activity based |
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friendships and gay/lesbians
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lesbians= start as friends and then have a sexual relationship
- gay and lesbians more likely to stay friends with an ex |
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3 steps in friendship repair
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1) reproach- offended party acknowledges problems and asks offender for an explanation
2) remedy- offender offers to take responsibility and offering a justification, a concession, or an apology 3) acknowledgment- offended party acknowledges the remedy, the friendship progresses |
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heterosexism
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the assumption that all individuals and relationships are heterosexual
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triangular theory of love
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all love experiences are made up of 3 components:
- intimacy - passion - commitment |
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intimacy
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warmth, closeness, sharing, self-disclosure is essential
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passion
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intense feelings including sexual desire
- drives romance, physical attraction and sexual consummation - need for nurturance, self-esteem, dominance, submission |
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commitment
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decision and intent to maintain relationship in spite of all the difficulties and costs that may arise
- short-term= decision to love someone - long-term= determination to make relationship endure |
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romantic love as attachment theory
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romantic love= an attachment process with similarities in the bond between infants and caregivers
- fascination with other person - distress at separation - efforts to stay close and spend time together |
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infant attachments
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secure= warm/responsive approach increases this
anxious-ambivalent= inconsistency increases this avoidant= cold/rejecting increases this |
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secure adults
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55%, trust others, find it easy to get close to them
- rarely worry about being abandoned by partner |
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avoidant adults
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25%, fear and feel uncomfortable about getting close
- reluctant to trust, maintain emotional distance - lowest incidence of positive relationship |
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anxious-avoidant adults
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20%, obsessive and preoccupied with their relationship, want more closeness than partners
- extreme jealousy based on abandonment fears - shortest duration of the 3 styles |
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continuum of attachment theory
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attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance
high-high= avoidant-fearful high-low= preoccupied low-high= avoidant-dismissing low-low= secure |
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attachment anxiety
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how much a person worries that a partner will not be available when needed
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attachment avoidance
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degree of distrust in a partner's goodwill, has tendencies to maintain distance from the partner
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why does passion fade? (3)
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1) the fantasy picture of the partner is replaced by reality
2) novelty fades with increased interactions and knowledge 3) arousal decreases, which can't last forever |
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5 factors contributing to break-ups
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1) premature commitment
2) ineffective communication and conflict management skills 3) becoming bored with the relationship 4) availability of a more attractive relationship 5) low levels of satisfaction |
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6 steps to the break-up
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1) breakdown- someone becomes dissatisfied
2) intrapsychic- ruminating on the dissatisfaction 3) dyadic- discussing and negotiating the conflict 4) social- friends and family alerted of conflict 5) grave dressing- each partner develops separate account of the breakup for his/her social network 6) resurrection- prepare for new life |
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loneliness
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when a person has fewer interpersonal relationships than desired or when these relationships are not as satisfying as desired
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emotional loneliness
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absence of an intimate attachment figure
for kids= adults for adults= best friend or spouse |
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social loneliness
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lack of friendship network
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transient loneliness
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brief and sporadic feelings of loneliness
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transitional loneliness
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occurs when people who had satisfying social relationships in the past experience a disruption in their social network
(death of a loved one, someone moving away, divorce) |
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chronic loneliness
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people who have been unable to develop satisfactory interpersonal networks over the past years
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3 correlations of loneliness
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shyness, poor social skills, self-defeating attributional style
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shyness
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discomfort, inhibition , and excessive caution in interpersonal relations
- timid about expressing selves, embarrassed easily, self-conscious - experience physiological symptoms of their anxiety |
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self-defeating attributional style on loneliness
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lonely people engage in negative self talk- tell themselves that they are lonely because they are unlovable
- attributes loneliness to stable, internal causes |
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chronic loneliness associated with...
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low self-esteem, hostility, depression, alcoholism, suicide, immune system deficits
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conquering loneliness (4)
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1) internet
2) resist temptation to withdraw from social situations 3) break out of the habit of the self-defeating attributional style 4) improve social skills |