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Relationship Maintenance
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what partners do to keep their relationship functioning
they way they deal with conflict, small talk, affection, etc |
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intimacy
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Latin for "to make known" and "innermost"
some people equate it with self-disclosure |
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3 dimensions of self disclosure
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1) Information - how many ppl know it
2) Expectations for Self - high/low perceived risk 3) Expectation for Other - reciprocated, understood, told to others? |
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Self-Disclosure as Catharsis
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communicative release
get it off your chest |
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Self-Disclosure as "The Need to Be Open"
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truth is king
you must "tell it like it is" |
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Self-Disclosure as a Communication Strategy
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goal is to get something
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Self-Disclosure as Manipulation
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to hurt, shock, embarrass, encourage reciprocation
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Trust is composed of 3 primary perceptions:
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1)predictability
2)dependability 3)faith |
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Questions to ask before lying in a relationship:
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1) Will this lie help us both?
2) Is the lie consistent with the rules of fairness in the relationship? 3) Does your partner (the lied to) believe you have his or her best interest at heart? |
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mutual influence
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it is easy to condemn lies that we feel we had no part in.
ex of party hostess and her guests |
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multiple exposure
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lies to people we don't see that often
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quite familiar with one another's behavior
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detection accuracy?
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Anxiety Response
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blushing, shaking, gulping, sweating, voice tremors, etc
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Excessive Response
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go beyond the boundaries of normal behavior for the individual
overreacting |
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Incongruous Responses
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getting one's story mixed up, sending the wrong cues,
contradicting oneself |
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Indirect Responses
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answering a question with a question, changing the subject, vagueness
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Profitable construction conflict may:
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1)Increase understanding
2) clarify dis/similarities 3) assist coping 4) reveal problems |
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Withdrawal
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both parties want to flee conflict
view themselves as martyrs. |
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Escalation
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both parties want to fight rather than flee
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Tactics for constructive conflict:
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1) identify/state source of conflict
2) methods of information exchange and methods of encoding |
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hidden grievance
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the real grievance is hidden because the trigger for the conflict is only a distant and minute manifestation of a deep issue.
ex: tv example |
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Most common marital dispute topics:
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money, communication, sex
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Statement labeling
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identification of a statement as a fact, feeling, or inference
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negative problem talk
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the problem is presented in such a way that the speaker's position on the problem overshadows the problem itself
ex: nasty tones, sarcasm, pessimism, etc |
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negative solution talk
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presenting unreasonable, unrealistic, impractical solutions
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mindreading
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assumption of complete knowledge of the other person's thoughts and motives
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critical talk
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evaluating oneself or one's partner by focusing on the flaws
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Listening talk
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talk which shows you have at least heard and perhaps understood the message
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positive problem talk
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attempts to provide information about the problem in a focused, specific, and relatively neutral manner
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After the fight:
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1) confrontation is periodically reviewed (after cooling off)
2) Reassurance rituals follow the argument (unity) 3) forecasts and tests are presented to one another (hypothetical situations) |