Relationship seems to be stable, obtaining work goals, and you know how to expand yourself. In fact, for most of the middle age people we have our first encounter with death. Now we will recognize grey hair, wrinkles, stretchmarks, and our parents, aunts, and uncles die. We are also forced with a double responsibility and we have to deal with our mortality and family. At this stage, we are an island and we have to devote a lot of time, but at the same time, we are crying inside because we do not have much longer. At the same time, finding ourselves dying means reconciling the fact that we are losing out on the on the family lifestyle, we will not be around to guide the next …show more content…
This is where your death or dying is being discussed and does not make anything easier, but it offers away to show support that is not available in other contexts. We need to be careful about what to say. For example, Jane Brody explains in her article what not to say to a cancer patient, such as how are you? This is asked different from someone on the street to a cancer patient. There words are often not helpful, but harmful. They do not want to be reminded of their disease and so sometimes, that type of question can be intrusive and sometimes can tie your tongue and family do not know what to say. As a result, they avoid the person and sometimes this can be more painful than saying something wrong. On the other hand, people mean well, but they say he wrong thing. We also do not like cheerleaders, “you will be fine!, do not worry about it!, they will find a cure!” can worry the person. We need to stay away from false optimism because it can devalue about what is going on in the body of the person. We need action, for example, “give me a call?”. We need to put burdens on the patient. Instead, say “I will be bringing dinner to you,” basically, be more specific about offering to the person. For example, “can I bring you to the doctor?”, etc. Try not to worry the person to death. We need to also talk less and listen more. We often find some of the greatest support comes from solemnly witnessing what the dying person has to say and sometimes silence