Knowing the Biological Parents
Elizabeth Bishop Zane State College
Knowing the Biological Parents Brad Meltzer (2001) once said in his book The Inner Circle, “She wasn't tracking down her father to learn more about him. She was tracking him down to learn more about herself. ” This statement being a prime example that many adopted children want to know their biological parents for themselves and for their own self-identity. Adoption is a life changing event, and affects the child for the rest of his or her life. So shouldn’t the child have the right to know their parents if they choose to? Absolutely, although allowing the child to meet their biological parents could have a bad outcome for example the parents being a bad influence, …show more content…
But a child knowing they’re adopted and having the opportunity to meet their biological parents can end many ways, but the good outweighs the bad. Adoptee children and knowing their biological parents can be broken down into a few ideas like if it’s okay to hide the fact they’re adopted, how the child’s and parents’ rights come into play, and issues the child face.
So what’s the importance of telling the child they’re adopted? Though the subject isn’t the easiest to bring up and finding the right time and place could be a struggle. Telling them is the right thing to do, a child deserves to know their history and their origins. Many kids could relate to Meg Rosoff when she says, “I notice those children now, the ones people lie to. Like all children, they are studying the world, struggling to learn the rules of engagement. Except that, for them, life doesn't make sense because their instincts are negated. So they begin to twist in an attempt to accommodate a world full of half-truths (Rosoff, 2013).” When Rosoff says this she’s going into the mind of an adopted child, talking about things an ordinary individual would not think of. Telling a child they’re adopted could answer many questions, and allow more things to make sense. Not …show more content…
Many parents don’t put their child up for adoption just to do it, or because their baby is being taken away but because they want the child to have a better life than they know they can give the child. An example of this is birth mother Skye Hardwick stating, "A Birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart (2015.)" Birth parents often get curious of how their biological child is doing as he or she grows, and can sometimes even regret the decision of putting the child up for adoption. As for the child who is now in the new family they face many issues themselves. Knowing they are adopted is a very important part of their life, and fitting in can sometimes be an issue for the child, but in most cases the child does fine. Often the child struggles with feeling unwanted. This usually can be solved by allowing the child to choose to have contact with their birth parents when they reach the mature age of eighteen. This will allow them to understand they were not unwanted, but maybe the circumstances the mother was going through when he or she was born can open the child’s eyes, also making them realize their adopted parents chose to take them in. Meeting their birthparents can turn out many of ways, but knowing where they came from, and understanding why they were given up for adoption in the first place can help solve the issue of feeling unwanted and not
Elizabeth Bishop Zane State College
Knowing the Biological Parents Brad Meltzer (2001) once said in his book The Inner Circle, “She wasn't tracking down her father to learn more about him. She was tracking him down to learn more about herself. ” This statement being a prime example that many adopted children want to know their biological parents for themselves and for their own self-identity. Adoption is a life changing event, and affects the child for the rest of his or her life. So shouldn’t the child have the right to know their parents if they choose to? Absolutely, although allowing the child to meet their biological parents could have a bad outcome for example the parents being a bad influence, …show more content…
But a child knowing they’re adopted and having the opportunity to meet their biological parents can end many ways, but the good outweighs the bad. Adoptee children and knowing their biological parents can be broken down into a few ideas like if it’s okay to hide the fact they’re adopted, how the child’s and parents’ rights come into play, and issues the child face.
So what’s the importance of telling the child they’re adopted? Though the subject isn’t the easiest to bring up and finding the right time and place could be a struggle. Telling them is the right thing to do, a child deserves to know their history and their origins. Many kids could relate to Meg Rosoff when she says, “I notice those children now, the ones people lie to. Like all children, they are studying the world, struggling to learn the rules of engagement. Except that, for them, life doesn't make sense because their instincts are negated. So they begin to twist in an attempt to accommodate a world full of half-truths (Rosoff, 2013).” When Rosoff says this she’s going into the mind of an adopted child, talking about things an ordinary individual would not think of. Telling a child they’re adopted could answer many questions, and allow more things to make sense. Not …show more content…
Many parents don’t put their child up for adoption just to do it, or because their baby is being taken away but because they want the child to have a better life than they know they can give the child. An example of this is birth mother Skye Hardwick stating, "A Birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart (2015.)" Birth parents often get curious of how their biological child is doing as he or she grows, and can sometimes even regret the decision of putting the child up for adoption. As for the child who is now in the new family they face many issues themselves. Knowing they are adopted is a very important part of their life, and fitting in can sometimes be an issue for the child, but in most cases the child does fine. Often the child struggles with feeling unwanted. This usually can be solved by allowing the child to choose to have contact with their birth parents when they reach the mature age of eighteen. This will allow them to understand they were not unwanted, but maybe the circumstances the mother was going through when he or she was born can open the child’s eyes, also making them realize their adopted parents chose to take them in. Meeting their birthparents can turn out many of ways, but knowing where they came from, and understanding why they were given up for adoption in the first place can help solve the issue of feeling unwanted and not