Many new ideas that can be heard circulating in today’s world, revolve around sex. Sex has become a topic that is discussed more openly; it’s no longer a private subject. With having large forums in today’s society, the likes of social media, the discussions have become open doors to many new ideas that help us enjoy healthy sex. But, along with all the facts we must be weary of the lies associated with sex. Lies about sex can be detrimental to our society in many ways; lies can also debilitate and destroy relationships in the family unit. One idea in particular that has made its way into our society today is that “sex cannot be satisfying in the routines of marriage”. In this paper I will go over the validity of this statement and if I agree
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When we are taught that sex and love is perfect and that it is hopelessly romantic with perfect timing, created to fulfill every desire that we hold, we create a false picture of reality. Then losing the passion to the monotony of dirty dishes and laundry isn’t very difficult to believe. Seeing past the imperfections of our spouse becomes harder. Ultimately, the lure of a new un-predictable, un-blemished, partner seems like a simple fix to our un-happy sex life. In our reading, Carroll, 2013, points out that most of the people that decide to engage in extramarital sexual activity are not doing it because they are not fulfilling there sexual desires, they engage in it because they feel like their spouse can meet other emotional needs in the relationship (pg. 219). Therefore, leading us to believe that “good sex can only be attained out of the routine of marriage. Ironically, for most this path only leads to destruction of happiness in our marriages and family units. Only by having a clear understanding of what sex is can we understand this …show more content…
In this paper we reviewed the validity to the idea that “good sex is not possible in the routine of marriage”, when separating the truth form the lies we used two view to breakdown this idea, we used a secular and a biblical worldview. When we used a secular worldview, the ideas that sexes used for procreation or self-pleasure, specifically self-pleasure, can only lead us to look at sex a false depiction of reality. When we begin to face the challenges involved in a relationship then believing in this lie can seem plausible. Even at the cost of hurting our spouse and or family members. When we look at this from a biblical perspective we see the opportunity to grow from a romantic love to compassionate love, through the “ebbs and flows” of the relationship itself. The idea that the very “routine” of marriage is the ideal place to engage in healthy sex allows Christians to open up on the subject and embrace the purpose of its
When we are taught that sex and love is perfect and that it is hopelessly romantic with perfect timing, created to fulfill every desire that we hold, we create a false picture of reality. Then losing the passion to the monotony of dirty dishes and laundry isn’t very difficult to believe. Seeing past the imperfections of our spouse becomes harder. Ultimately, the lure of a new un-predictable, un-blemished, partner seems like a simple fix to our un-happy sex life. In our reading, Carroll, 2013, points out that most of the people that decide to engage in extramarital sexual activity are not doing it because they are not fulfilling there sexual desires, they engage in it because they feel like their spouse can meet other emotional needs in the relationship (pg. 219). Therefore, leading us to believe that “good sex can only be attained out of the routine of marriage. Ironically, for most this path only leads to destruction of happiness in our marriages and family units. Only by having a clear understanding of what sex is can we understand this …show more content…
In this paper we reviewed the validity to the idea that “good sex is not possible in the routine of marriage”, when separating the truth form the lies we used two view to breakdown this idea, we used a secular and a biblical worldview. When we used a secular worldview, the ideas that sexes used for procreation or self-pleasure, specifically self-pleasure, can only lead us to look at sex a false depiction of reality. When we begin to face the challenges involved in a relationship then believing in this lie can seem plausible. Even at the cost of hurting our spouse and or family members. When we look at this from a biblical perspective we see the opportunity to grow from a romantic love to compassionate love, through the “ebbs and flows” of the relationship itself. The idea that the very “routine” of marriage is the ideal place to engage in healthy sex allows Christians to open up on the subject and embrace the purpose of its