Secure Attachment In Early Childhood

I believe that a person’s style of attachment affects everything from their partner’s selection on how well or bad their relationships progress and how they end. I believe that an attachment pattern is established in early childhood and continues to function as a working model for relationships in adulthood. According to Shaver Hazan, about 60 percent of people have a secure attachment while twenty percent have an anxious attachment, and twenty percent have an avoidant attachment.

Secure attached adults tend to be more satisfied in their relationships, they offer support when their partner feels distressed. They also go to their partner for comfort when they feel troubled. Their relationship tends to be honest, open and equal, with both people feeling independent, yet loving toward each other. Furthermore, securely attached couples don’t tend to engage in an illusion of connection that provides a false sense of safety. I am sure …show more content…
Their parents likely disregard or ignore their needs, such as when they were hurt or sick. There is a good chance their parents also discouraged crying and encouraged premature independence. In response, avoidant attached children have learned early in life to suppress the natural desire to seek out a parent for comfort when frightened, distressed, or in pain. Therefore, they became adults with emotionally tendencies to distance themselves from their partner. They may seek isolation and may have an inability to deal with stress and adversity, depression, and apathy. Nevertheless, people with an avoidant attachment tend to live more inward lives, both denying the importance of loved ones and detaching easily from them. They are often psychologically defended and have the ability to shut down emotionally. Even in heated or emotional situations, they are able to turn off their feelings and not