SMART Goal #1: I will continue to learn and improve the skills needed to change my behavior and relinquish control in group situations. I will trust that people are competent and stop doing everything for them.
Rationale for Goal: In group situations, mostly in my personal life, but also in a work setting, I tend to obsessively try to control the people and situations to suit my ideal outcome. I attribute this behavior to my diagnosis of OCD as a child. However, I don’t want that title to control me, because it strains relationships, as well as raises my anxiety level to a point that I can hardly preform the task in the first place.
Steps to take to achieve this goal:
1) Take the time to learn more about myself and what it is that makes …show more content…
When I do speak, my voice has a tendency to shake and I often over think what I have said afterwards. I would like to become less shy and be able to confidently make my way in my future business setting.
Steps to take to achieve this goal:
1) Take the time to understand what it is that makes me feel shy in the first place. Stop trying to be picture perfect. See that everyone makes mistakes while talking yet most people are too self involved to see others mistakes. Take to friends about what makes them want to speak up in conversation. Deadline: Oct. 7
2) Research known techniques for for becoming more confident. Lighten your mood and smile more in conversation. Browse Hodges Library for self help books on being less shy.
Deadline Oct.14
3) Talk to outgoing people and identify what makes them seem so friendly. Reflect on ways I could introduce that behavior in my own life. Begin making conversation with waitresses and cashiers where trivial interactions wont matter. Deadline: Oct. 21
4) Rehearse my new skills with friends. Ask for feedback. What key words make people open up? Ask questions about others; people love to talk about themselves. Deadline: Oct.
Rationale for Goal: In group situations, mostly in my personal life, but also in a work setting, I tend to obsessively try to control the people and situations to suit my ideal outcome. I attribute this behavior to my diagnosis of OCD as a child. However, I don’t want that title to control me, because it strains relationships, as well as raises my anxiety level to a point that I can hardly preform the task in the first place.
Steps to take to achieve this goal:
1) Take the time to learn more about myself and what it is that makes …show more content…
When I do speak, my voice has a tendency to shake and I often over think what I have said afterwards. I would like to become less shy and be able to confidently make my way in my future business setting.
Steps to take to achieve this goal:
1) Take the time to understand what it is that makes me feel shy in the first place. Stop trying to be picture perfect. See that everyone makes mistakes while talking yet most people are too self involved to see others mistakes. Take to friends about what makes them want to speak up in conversation. Deadline: Oct. 7
2) Research known techniques for for becoming more confident. Lighten your mood and smile more in conversation. Browse Hodges Library for self help books on being less shy.
Deadline Oct.14
3) Talk to outgoing people and identify what makes them seem so friendly. Reflect on ways I could introduce that behavior in my own life. Begin making conversation with waitresses and cashiers where trivial interactions wont matter. Deadline: Oct. 21
4) Rehearse my new skills with friends. Ask for feedback. What key words make people open up? Ask questions about others; people love to talk about themselves. Deadline: Oct.