“Every man should have four wives: a Persian, with whom he can converse; a woman from Khorasan, for the housework; a Hindu woman to raise the children, and one from Transoxiana, whom he can beat as a warning to the others” (Mirza Aziz Koka). Polygamy was practiced in the ancient world and is still a custom today among certain groups in Africa, Asia, India, and the Middle East depending on the law, culture, and religion. The term “Polygamy” is used to describe the general practice of multiple marriages. It is often used to describe marriage between one man and many women. This type of polygamy is “polygyny.” The other rare form of polygamy is polyandry, which refers to one woman with multiple husbands. The practice of polygamy is illegal in
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Co-wives are required to live in the same home where there is a lot of domination that goes on about who has the right to rule. The woman who is the most favorite to the husband is going to rule over the other wives and their kids. It is challenging for one man to focus equally to each wife and it happens frequently to the older wives, because the man tends to give more attention to the new wife. “A Kenyan polygamous man had 150 wives, the reporter diligently interviewed the youngest wife, who thought polygamy was terrific since it allowed her to marry the richest, most handsome, and the most respected man in her village. He also quoted the oldest wife, who was nostalgic for the days when she didn 't have to share her husband with this army of younger wives” (Steve S, …show more content…
Apart from polygamy being against my belief, I must insist that polygamy has more disadvantages than advantages. Those who do practice it do so for one reason or the other. Some, because their large farms that need a lot of manpower on; others, because they were the only children of their parents, and like my grandfather who ended up polygamous because of his fame and generosity to his society, he had wives as gifts. Most of the women were not enlightened like today and they saw it as a way of life then, and they coped quite well. I must say that there is a lot of preferential treatments in the family. Children, whose moms are not on good terms with their father, suffer in many ways. In some homes, women go out of their ways to gain the attention of their husbands because of their children’s welfare. Honestly, no reasonable woman will encourage her daughter to go into polygamy no matter how attractive the offer may be. Money is the only reason that draws many into polygamy. In my opinion, marriage should be more about love than money. Children especially girls should be trained to work hard and rely on their effort than depending on a man who does not get content with her as a wife. Young ladies should know that the married men that they go for because they appear mature did not mature suddenly but took time with their first wife who worked hard. They should give the young men a chance to get established too and if the man
Co-wives are required to live in the same home where there is a lot of domination that goes on about who has the right to rule. The woman who is the most favorite to the husband is going to rule over the other wives and their kids. It is challenging for one man to focus equally to each wife and it happens frequently to the older wives, because the man tends to give more attention to the new wife. “A Kenyan polygamous man had 150 wives, the reporter diligently interviewed the youngest wife, who thought polygamy was terrific since it allowed her to marry the richest, most handsome, and the most respected man in her village. He also quoted the oldest wife, who was nostalgic for the days when she didn 't have to share her husband with this army of younger wives” (Steve S, …show more content…
Apart from polygamy being against my belief, I must insist that polygamy has more disadvantages than advantages. Those who do practice it do so for one reason or the other. Some, because their large farms that need a lot of manpower on; others, because they were the only children of their parents, and like my grandfather who ended up polygamous because of his fame and generosity to his society, he had wives as gifts. Most of the women were not enlightened like today and they saw it as a way of life then, and they coped quite well. I must say that there is a lot of preferential treatments in the family. Children, whose moms are not on good terms with their father, suffer in many ways. In some homes, women go out of their ways to gain the attention of their husbands because of their children’s welfare. Honestly, no reasonable woman will encourage her daughter to go into polygamy no matter how attractive the offer may be. Money is the only reason that draws many into polygamy. In my opinion, marriage should be more about love than money. Children especially girls should be trained to work hard and rely on their effort than depending on a man who does not get content with her as a wife. Young ladies should know that the married men that they go for because they appear mature did not mature suddenly but took time with their first wife who worked hard. They should give the young men a chance to get established too and if the man