We all have a fragile existence. Life is a fleeting, transient and temporary phenomenon even for the person who has lived a hundred years. Ask any old person you now and find out what they have to say about the transience of life.
Just the other day, about a month ago, I was browsing through my Facebook wall, something I seldom do, and I stumbled on the profile of an old friend. He used to be my closest friend when I lived in Oyo state. Communication between us kind of froze after I moved back to Lagos. We used to chat once in a while but this time we had not had any form of conversation in like 3 years or more. So on this day, his profile popped in my face and I thought to check on him. Oh yes, now I remember why I visited his wall. It was …show more content…
He was one considered my closest friend and I was the last person to learn of his demise. I have a terrible habit of leaving everyone and everything behind when I leave a place. So for him, the moment I moved away from that city he had been boxed in the past, one only to be contacted when the need arose or if he contacted me first. We barely spoke on phone, rarely chatted and never even saw each other again after leaving Oyo state some 8 years ago. He had a kind heart, a really kind and noble heart. The truth is I have not known anyone like him since I met him and chances are I will never know anyone like him till my time on earth is also over. But it took me reading “rest in peace” messages to him to realize this truth.
The lesson in form of a question here is do I have to wait to read an obituary message about a friend before I cherish them or show them that they matter? Do my friends have to die before I realize I failed as a friend? Does something negative have to occur before I reach out to a friend or even family? Must I need something before remembering to say hello to someone I consider a friend? I have asked myself these questions but it is wise to ask yourself the same questions. Will you wait for things to go wrong before you do the right
Just the other day, about a month ago, I was browsing through my Facebook wall, something I seldom do, and I stumbled on the profile of an old friend. He used to be my closest friend when I lived in Oyo state. Communication between us kind of froze after I moved back to Lagos. We used to chat once in a while but this time we had not had any form of conversation in like 3 years or more. So on this day, his profile popped in my face and I thought to check on him. Oh yes, now I remember why I visited his wall. It was …show more content…
He was one considered my closest friend and I was the last person to learn of his demise. I have a terrible habit of leaving everyone and everything behind when I leave a place. So for him, the moment I moved away from that city he had been boxed in the past, one only to be contacted when the need arose or if he contacted me first. We barely spoke on phone, rarely chatted and never even saw each other again after leaving Oyo state some 8 years ago. He had a kind heart, a really kind and noble heart. The truth is I have not known anyone like him since I met him and chances are I will never know anyone like him till my time on earth is also over. But it took me reading “rest in peace” messages to him to realize this truth.
The lesson in form of a question here is do I have to wait to read an obituary message about a friend before I cherish them or show them that they matter? Do my friends have to die before I realize I failed as a friend? Does something negative have to occur before I reach out to a friend or even family? Must I need something before remembering to say hello to someone I consider a friend? I have asked myself these questions but it is wise to ask yourself the same questions. Will you wait for things to go wrong before you do the right