Growing Pains
My mother just vanished overnight it seemed. The worst part was the thing that I never thought would happen in a million years did, indeed, happen: a man won my mother's heart, and she completely changed. No matter how much it hurt me that my mother now had a boyfriend and changes were being made, a life lesson occurred, and I learned it is time for me to grow up and stop lacking self-responsibility, pay my bills, and stop relying on her for everything, from bills to even my emotions. Life changes happen, whether we like them or not, but once they happen, I realized it was in my hands if I decided to move forward or choose to let it hold me back
At first everything was marvelous. It was a kind of appealing situation because …show more content…
Having a temper, I did not always use the best word choice, so I tend to come off rude, insensitive and as mentioned selfish. I never realized how much I relied on my mother until my not so nice ways got me cut off, and my needs were no longer her problem. Financially, I understood, at the age of 25 it was time to pay all my bills not relying on a parent as a fall back. I could always run to her and even when my father was still living, no matter how much he said no, she would still help me pay my debts. It began with her not answering the phone, not coming around, and an email with the subject title of “Debt you owe”. In this lovely email I read “Casey, here is a total of everything you owe me. The amount is, $3,462. Love you, Mom”. Upsetting I owed this much, but more confused, I am asking myself why has she emailed me, but not responding to any calls or text messages. At this point I am becoming furious, here it is I stand trying to be happy for my mother and she does not even care how it makes me feel, blaming her new relationship on why she has been out of reach. A month passes by giving me time to evaluate the entire situation, and bills come along I am starting to notice just how much expenses alone my mom was covering and how much I was draining her bank account that she worked hard to earn, and not me. Not having her to call and vent which typically would have made her feel bad about my situation, and help me out, it made me realize how much self-responsibility I
My mother just vanished overnight it seemed. The worst part was the thing that I never thought would happen in a million years did, indeed, happen: a man won my mother's heart, and she completely changed. No matter how much it hurt me that my mother now had a boyfriend and changes were being made, a life lesson occurred, and I learned it is time for me to grow up and stop lacking self-responsibility, pay my bills, and stop relying on her for everything, from bills to even my emotions. Life changes happen, whether we like them or not, but once they happen, I realized it was in my hands if I decided to move forward or choose to let it hold me back
At first everything was marvelous. It was a kind of appealing situation because …show more content…
Having a temper, I did not always use the best word choice, so I tend to come off rude, insensitive and as mentioned selfish. I never realized how much I relied on my mother until my not so nice ways got me cut off, and my needs were no longer her problem. Financially, I understood, at the age of 25 it was time to pay all my bills not relying on a parent as a fall back. I could always run to her and even when my father was still living, no matter how much he said no, she would still help me pay my debts. It began with her not answering the phone, not coming around, and an email with the subject title of “Debt you owe”. In this lovely email I read “Casey, here is a total of everything you owe me. The amount is, $3,462. Love you, Mom”. Upsetting I owed this much, but more confused, I am asking myself why has she emailed me, but not responding to any calls or text messages. At this point I am becoming furious, here it is I stand trying to be happy for my mother and she does not even care how it makes me feel, blaming her new relationship on why she has been out of reach. A month passes by giving me time to evaluate the entire situation, and bills come along I am starting to notice just how much expenses alone my mom was covering and how much I was draining her bank account that she worked hard to earn, and not me. Not having her to call and vent which typically would have made her feel bad about my situation, and help me out, it made me realize how much self-responsibility I