Loneliness has been my major problem since I came into the United States in May, 2015. My family and friends are all in Nigeria. The life I live now is very different from how I had lived in Nigeria. I was so busy in Nigeria that sometimes I sneaked out of my house for thirty minutes just to get a quiet nap. I was the production manager of a juice company, and my job took all my time during the week and weekends. I scheduled production for weekends when the company ran out of products, or had a high demand for their products. On several occasions, the machine had broken down during the week and I had to return to the factory at the weekend. At home, I had two troublesome kids— five and three years old, a husband who eats too much, …show more content…
I get locked up in my room all the time without anybody to talk to. Because of the busy life I lived in Nigeria, I became so lonely that I started missing my family more than I had expected. There are no kids to make me scream, or a husband to cook for. The loneliness became a big problem because I could not move around, for I had no car to drive around the town with, and the city has no public transportation available. When I was growing up, I had a fracture in my right ankle and that limited me in the distance I could cover on foot. The major thing that took me out of the house was my school, but I also had to walk to school. I had a few classmates drop me off from school, but it was frustrating to ask for a ride all the time when almost everybody in the city had a car. I woke up most weekends not knowing what to do with myself, so I lay on my bed for hours until I start feeling pains all over the body. I agree with Smith and Segal stating that “Sometimes, loneliness is a result of external circumstances: you’ve moved to a new area, for example, so you’re building a social life from scratch.” I have thought of various possible solutions to overcome loneliness. These solutions include— becoming more active, making new friends, and accepting the way of life of the people in El Dorado …show more content…
This solution is affordable and less stressful, unlike the approach of becoming more active that requires my spending money on telephone calls. More so, I do not have to interfere with anybody’s life, or face the heartache of rejection usually found in trying to make new friends, or the humiliation of asking for a ride all the time. Life would be a lot easier for me if I adjust to the lifestyle in El Dorado city. The thoughts of loneliness would be wiped away, and gradually my system will move from an active lifestyle I had lived in Nigeria to a calm and peaceful life lived in the United