"Be a man", "Quit crying", and "Stop being a little girl". These are just some of many things boys/men hear on a daily bases from family members, friends, or even from themselves. Its starts off as early as a few years old. Either the mother or father, primarily the father, will some of the many encouraging things to his/her son. Which then carries on to their peers. Mocking them to not act "gay" or being a sissy. Then after all of that guys still feel the need to be "manly" even with no one around. All throughout men's life they are conditioned to constantly be masculine and anything else is considered being "soft" or "weak". All of that needs to stop. Boys should be allowed to act as feminine or masculine so they are comfortable with themselves
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The constant pressure of having to be a "man" is stressful. No matter when or where, men are in an everyday battle with other men to prove their masculinity. That’s where the insults of "your gay" or "you’re a little girl" come from. In Michael Kimmel's essay "Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code", he mentions that guys always have to show how masculine they are compared to other men (Pg.547). Having to compete with other men makes them loss a sense of equality. Always having to one up each other and looking down at those who aren't masculine or aren't as masculine as them gives the guy the sense of superiority and don’t see other men as equals. Then treating them and potentially women like lesser for being generally being feminine or not as masculine as them. In Arron H. Devor's essay "Becoming Member Of Society: Learning The Social Meanings Of Gender", he mentions that inequalities between genders starts by the way we act as either more masculine or feminine and the way we respond to them (Pg.475). Today's society praises that everyone should be equal and treated equally by everyone but when everyone is still tell boys how to act it doesn’t help achieve gender equality. It only stunts the growth of equality by not accepting that some boys just don’t want to be a manly man. Accepting them for they are and how they want to be will allow for equality from all genders and stop the stress of always needing to prove their masculinity …show more content…
Everyone has the right to be comfortable in their own skin. Having the need to conform to societies standards as a male shouldn’t need to happen. Having to categorize themselves as a "manly man" or "lady like" makes society too similar and doesn’t allow people to be their own person (Devor Pg.474). Constantly feeling the need to one up other men to prove their masculinity just lessens the individuality of all men to be considered the manliest man. Being their own person frees men of the bourdon of the battle with other men. Also being comfortable means being able to express emotions without someone judging them for it. Guys feel feminine or less masculine when expressing their feelings or even having them (Kimmel Pg.548). It shouldn't have to be that way. Everyone has feelings and its completely normal but to men feelings and crying about them is a sign of weakness that should never be shown. Talking about feelings and what someone is going through is a huge part to preventing depression and when someone is depressed they never feel like themselves until they get
The constant pressure of having to be a "man" is stressful. No matter when or where, men are in an everyday battle with other men to prove their masculinity. That’s where the insults of "your gay" or "you’re a little girl" come from. In Michael Kimmel's essay "Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code", he mentions that guys always have to show how masculine they are compared to other men (Pg.547). Having to compete with other men makes them loss a sense of equality. Always having to one up each other and looking down at those who aren't masculine or aren't as masculine as them gives the guy the sense of superiority and don’t see other men as equals. Then treating them and potentially women like lesser for being generally being feminine or not as masculine as them. In Arron H. Devor's essay "Becoming Member Of Society: Learning The Social Meanings Of Gender", he mentions that inequalities between genders starts by the way we act as either more masculine or feminine and the way we respond to them (Pg.475). Today's society praises that everyone should be equal and treated equally by everyone but when everyone is still tell boys how to act it doesn’t help achieve gender equality. It only stunts the growth of equality by not accepting that some boys just don’t want to be a manly man. Accepting them for they are and how they want to be will allow for equality from all genders and stop the stress of always needing to prove their masculinity …show more content…
Everyone has the right to be comfortable in their own skin. Having the need to conform to societies standards as a male shouldn’t need to happen. Having to categorize themselves as a "manly man" or "lady like" makes society too similar and doesn’t allow people to be their own person (Devor Pg.474). Constantly feeling the need to one up other men to prove their masculinity just lessens the individuality of all men to be considered the manliest man. Being their own person frees men of the bourdon of the battle with other men. Also being comfortable means being able to express emotions without someone judging them for it. Guys feel feminine or less masculine when expressing their feelings or even having them (Kimmel Pg.548). It shouldn't have to be that way. Everyone has feelings and its completely normal but to men feelings and crying about them is a sign of weakness that should never be shown. Talking about feelings and what someone is going through is a huge part to preventing depression and when someone is depressed they never feel like themselves until they get