Cutting the Cords Twice as a Mom
“The umbilical cord of a human being needs to be cut twice.”
Yes, I said it right! The umbilical cord of our babies need to be cut twice - physically and emotionally. First, during the birth when our babies need to learn to breathe for themselves and during their teenage years when they need to learn to live for themselves, to be independent.
When my babies were born, I felt the happiness I’ve never felt. I made things that I don’t usually do. I take care of them the best that I can and hone them to make them grow and develop to the fullest. I am excited everyday being a mother that prepares their needs for food and clothing. I am used to waking up every morning seeing their angelic and innocent faces. It’s been my habit to check on them in their room every time, know how well they are doing in school, and help …show more content…
He needs to go out. He has to go to a boarding school. It is a part of growing up for him to learn to be independent. I have already anticipated that he might have a separation anxiety. I knew he would feel homesick, cry and beg to come home. But, how I feel is tripled of his feelings. But, he needs to learn to live for himself.
I read Psychiatry textbooks explaining that part of the life cycle is growing up and learning to become our own self. Thus, I as a Mom needs to learn to accept this reality and let go. But, of course the same as a baby learning to walk, we need to guide our teenagers to making a right decision and note that we must guide not decide. By the time they reach twenties, they will become their own self, their own person.
It is really painful and hard to to cut the emotional umbilical cord that binds us to our children. Perhaps, it is the hardest part for the mother who bears the child for nine-long months with the cord attached directly to our blood system. We breathe for them, hold their hands to walk, tutor them to learn to read and write. We have grown attached to
“The umbilical cord of a human being needs to be cut twice.”
Yes, I said it right! The umbilical cord of our babies need to be cut twice - physically and emotionally. First, during the birth when our babies need to learn to breathe for themselves and during their teenage years when they need to learn to live for themselves, to be independent.
When my babies were born, I felt the happiness I’ve never felt. I made things that I don’t usually do. I take care of them the best that I can and hone them to make them grow and develop to the fullest. I am excited everyday being a mother that prepares their needs for food and clothing. I am used to waking up every morning seeing their angelic and innocent faces. It’s been my habit to check on them in their room every time, know how well they are doing in school, and help …show more content…
He needs to go out. He has to go to a boarding school. It is a part of growing up for him to learn to be independent. I have already anticipated that he might have a separation anxiety. I knew he would feel homesick, cry and beg to come home. But, how I feel is tripled of his feelings. But, he needs to learn to live for himself.
I read Psychiatry textbooks explaining that part of the life cycle is growing up and learning to become our own self. Thus, I as a Mom needs to learn to accept this reality and let go. But, of course the same as a baby learning to walk, we need to guide our teenagers to making a right decision and note that we must guide not decide. By the time they reach twenties, they will become their own self, their own person.
It is really painful and hard to to cut the emotional umbilical cord that binds us to our children. Perhaps, it is the hardest part for the mother who bears the child for nine-long months with the cord attached directly to our blood system. We breathe for them, hold their hands to walk, tutor them to learn to read and write. We have grown attached to