1.) There are five styles presented in the textbook that are measured by the ‘Conflict Style Questionnaire’. The five conflict styles are: avoidance, competition, accommodation, compromise, and collaboration (Northouse, p. 244). Avoidance is an “unassertive and uncooperative conflict style” in which the people who engage in this style prefer to ignore conflict situations (Northouse, p. 245 & 246). Basically, the avoidance style consists of disregarding conflict. When conflict is avoided because of this style, nothing is done to solve ongoing problems and no changes are made in order to avert conflicts (Northouse, p. 246). The Avoidance style is usually not productive but can allow the disagreeing parties to gather their thoughts and eventually
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Compromise “occurs halfway between competition and accommodation and involves both a degree of assertiveness and a degree of cooperativeness” (Northouse, p. 248). Compromise is similar to the aforementioned Accommodation conflict style but it involves both parties giving in a little bit. Compromising allows both individuals to give and take in a way that there is agreement. Compromise is definitely a positive conflict style as it attends to the goals of all the conflicting partners (Northouse, p. 248). Despite the positivity, compromising does not always keep everyone happy. Instead, neither side is one hundred percent satisfied (Northouse, p. 248). The final conflict style that is measured by the assessment is Collaboration. Collaboration requires cooperation and assertiveness when both fighting parties settle on a positive answer and fully attend to the other’s concerns while not quelling their own concerns (Northouse, p. 248). If Collaboration works, both parties are happy and come out with positive resolutions. Although this is great, it is the most difficult to achieve as it demands a lot of hard work and energy from the participants (Northouse, p. 249). All five styles of conflict can be utilized in a myriad of situations. Resolving conflicts is the goal of the five styles of …show more content…
We roomed together sophomore year and we did not disagree on much. But, we always disagreed on when the lights should be turned off for bed. I wanted to turn the lights off and go to sleep around midnight on school nights but he liked to keep them on until two in the morning. I personally used the Avoidance conflict style. I did not ask him if I could turn off the lights because he always gave me a reason to keep them on whenever I got into bed. I was very passive and I ignored the conflict situation instead of confronting him about it (Northouse, p. 246). I simply avoided it and stayed up during the extra time, as it is difficult for me to sleep when the lights are still on. I bottled up my feelings and it lead to more anxiety and animosity toward my roommate (Northouse, p. 246). When I look back on it, I should have been more proactive in coming up with a solution. The problem was that I did not want my relationship with him to turn bad over something like the lights in the room at certain hours. I did not do a good job of managing this conflict using the Avoidance conflict
Compromise “occurs halfway between competition and accommodation and involves both a degree of assertiveness and a degree of cooperativeness” (Northouse, p. 248). Compromise is similar to the aforementioned Accommodation conflict style but it involves both parties giving in a little bit. Compromising allows both individuals to give and take in a way that there is agreement. Compromise is definitely a positive conflict style as it attends to the goals of all the conflicting partners (Northouse, p. 248). Despite the positivity, compromising does not always keep everyone happy. Instead, neither side is one hundred percent satisfied (Northouse, p. 248). The final conflict style that is measured by the assessment is Collaboration. Collaboration requires cooperation and assertiveness when both fighting parties settle on a positive answer and fully attend to the other’s concerns while not quelling their own concerns (Northouse, p. 248). If Collaboration works, both parties are happy and come out with positive resolutions. Although this is great, it is the most difficult to achieve as it demands a lot of hard work and energy from the participants (Northouse, p. 249). All five styles of conflict can be utilized in a myriad of situations. Resolving conflicts is the goal of the five styles of …show more content…
We roomed together sophomore year and we did not disagree on much. But, we always disagreed on when the lights should be turned off for bed. I wanted to turn the lights off and go to sleep around midnight on school nights but he liked to keep them on until two in the morning. I personally used the Avoidance conflict style. I did not ask him if I could turn off the lights because he always gave me a reason to keep them on whenever I got into bed. I was very passive and I ignored the conflict situation instead of confronting him about it (Northouse, p. 246). I simply avoided it and stayed up during the extra time, as it is difficult for me to sleep when the lights are still on. I bottled up my feelings and it lead to more anxiety and animosity toward my roommate (Northouse, p. 246). When I look back on it, I should have been more proactive in coming up with a solution. The problem was that I did not want my relationship with him to turn bad over something like the lights in the room at certain hours. I did not do a good job of managing this conflict using the Avoidance conflict