Loud;Boisterous;Rowdy. But also fun; close;and happy. This is an accurate description of my family, my large and ebullient family that consists of my mother and father, and my four siblings:Nina, Michael, Stella, and Sara. Growing up in such a large family you learn very quickly the concept of conflict management. Conflict management is the process of limiting the pejorative aspects of conflicts. In a family where you have so many eccentric and strongly individual personalities confined to one space it is natural for tempers to flare,moods to swing and irritations to develop. Surrender before you can win is one of many techniques that I have learnt to use.conflict is an intergalactic part of human life. It is within you and all around
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So our conflict is not a true war situation; I don't want to see a defeated family member because my intention is not to harm them. But I do have to survive so sometimes keeping the peace is more important than winning the fight. When I ‘play surrender' and my sister or brother feels bad and then I automatically win. An example is when my siblings and I all battle for the front seat in my moms car. Stella and Sara, the younger siblings have to go to the back. There are three seats in the back and one in the front and my younger brother, older sister and I all believe we have the right to the front seat. Sometimes I go to the back, and let my sister or brother take the front and then my mom lets me have the front another time. Then there are times when I surrender in front of my parents,'the powers that really matter,'and although I sometimes lose the fight against my siblings, I score huge brownie points with my parents. So although I lose the battle, I ultimately win the war. another example of this is when all five of us are going out on a Saturday night, and my parents have to drop us all off in opposite directions. I co-operate with my parents and allow them to drop me off last and let my siblings be dropped off first. My mom is so grateful that I win the war with my …show more content…
It broke my heart to see children run to bomb shelters, and hear stories of mothers who lost their sons in battle. I witnesses the tragic effect of the Palestinian missiles in Beit Shemesh, a small city just outside Jerusalem. My group and I heard the siren signaling that we had 60 seconds to run into a bomb shelter. We all raced to the bomb shelter a feeling of fear clawing to us. Many people in my group were crying and praying. This is when I realized Israelis have to do this every day. Israeli children and parents are so calm as they quickly make there way into the bomb shelter. This is their norm. This tragedy is their life. It is therefore evident that the technique 'surrender before you can win' does not apply to
So our conflict is not a true war situation; I don't want to see a defeated family member because my intention is not to harm them. But I do have to survive so sometimes keeping the peace is more important than winning the fight. When I ‘play surrender' and my sister or brother feels bad and then I automatically win. An example is when my siblings and I all battle for the front seat in my moms car. Stella and Sara, the younger siblings have to go to the back. There are three seats in the back and one in the front and my younger brother, older sister and I all believe we have the right to the front seat. Sometimes I go to the back, and let my sister or brother take the front and then my mom lets me have the front another time. Then there are times when I surrender in front of my parents,'the powers that really matter,'and although I sometimes lose the fight against my siblings, I score huge brownie points with my parents. So although I lose the battle, I ultimately win the war. another example of this is when all five of us are going out on a Saturday night, and my parents have to drop us all off in opposite directions. I co-operate with my parents and allow them to drop me off last and let my siblings be dropped off first. My mom is so grateful that I win the war with my …show more content…
It broke my heart to see children run to bomb shelters, and hear stories of mothers who lost their sons in battle. I witnesses the tragic effect of the Palestinian missiles in Beit Shemesh, a small city just outside Jerusalem. My group and I heard the siren signaling that we had 60 seconds to run into a bomb shelter. We all raced to the bomb shelter a feeling of fear clawing to us. Many people in my group were crying and praying. This is when I realized Israelis have to do this every day. Israeli children and parents are so calm as they quickly make there way into the bomb shelter. This is their norm. This tragedy is their life. It is therefore evident that the technique 'surrender before you can win' does not apply to