Obedient Wives Club Research Paper

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Have you ever been at a wedding, and the bride is repeating after the officiant and says that she promises to obey her husband? It is a common expectation of women all over the world to be obedient to their husbands, however there is a sub - sect of the Islamic faith that takes submission to a whole new level. This sect is more commonly known as the Obedient Wives Club.
The Obedient Wives Club was founded on May 1, 2001 by employees of Global Iklwan Café in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. The Obedient Wives Club was originally created as a safe haven for female staff to be educated on how to be better wives. The teachings of the Obedient Wives Club are meant to counter husbands from partaking in social ills such as prostitution, domestic abuse, divorce,
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Islamic Sex, Fighting Jews to Return Islamic Sex to the World was a 115 page manual that explored polygamous group sex between the husband and all of his wives. This manual also suggests that wives be subservient and submissive to their husbands during sex. This subservient attitude is credited to being a form of protection against the angels curse claims co-founder Darlan Zaini (Gibson). Islamic Sex, Fighting Jews to Return Islamic Sex to the World also suggests that wives act as high class prostitutes in order to extinguish the husband’s sexual desires. This manual was quickly banned by the Malaysian Islamic affairs Department due to its degradation of women as well as its inaccurate Islamic views on sex. Sex is a topic not allowed to be discussed openly let alone publically in the Islamic faith. This matter was so serious that if a person was caught with the manual in their possession, they were subjected to an extensive fine as well as up to three years in prison …show more content…
The Obedient Wives Club pushes the issue that women should indulge in sex with their husband whenever he so desires. Would that not require women followers to succumb to sexual encounters even when they do not consent (Kinabalu)? In the eyes of the Obedient Wives Club, rape is something that simply is impossible when you are married. The president of the Obedient Wives Club, Fauziah Ariffin, stated, “You said that you love your husband but when he wants your service, (and) you do not want to give… is that love?” (Fadli). This statement is in direct violation of Section 375A of Malaysia’s penal code as well as Article 16 (1) (c) of the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women’s (Cedaw) Human Rights Commission. Section 375A of the penal code establishes that if a husband attempts or receives sexual gratification from his wife by force may be subjected to five years in prison if convicted. Article 16 (1) (c) of CEDAW’s Human Rights Commission also declares that a man who does in fact sexually violate or rape his wife is subject to criminal charges

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