Analysis Of Imperfection By Dr. Brene Brown

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Imperfection is something we all have as human beings. Nearly all humans are quite uncomfortable with this unfortunate truth. Many self-help books address the basic issue of imperfection. One such author focuses on overcoming specific imperfections in ourselves such as shame, fear, and guilt. On a more positive note the book also discusses embracing our true selves and living wholeheartedly. Dr. Brene Brown is the author of the book “The Gifts of Imperfection”. she is a researcher, writer, and professor. She is a member of the research faculty at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work Where she spent the past ten years studying a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness (Brown p. 137). An analysis of the authors credibility, …show more content…
Dr. Brown’s book mentions living wholeheartedly. In her introduction, she describes this as “no matter what happens I am enough, it’s going to bed at night and thinking, yes, I am imperfect but that doesn’t mean that I am not worthy of love and belonging” (Brown. Pg.1). Admittedly the initial message was not entirely clear. A more precise definition of wholehearted living had been expected. The book does not promise a complete and total life change in a short amount of time. However, this book does promise a near total way of thinking, feeling, and living, but not in a short amount of time. There is a chance that this book may not be the best choice; The reason being that a certain psychology textbook warns of self-help books that promise too much. The book also advises to choose books that focus on one specific issue, these types of books deliver more. Whereas books that focus on a broader topic tend to disappoint (Weiten Lloyd, Dunn, & Hammer. p 9). Perfectionism is something many of us suffer from which is natural. Many individuals would like to know what the negative effects are and what they could do. Dr. Brown wrote that perfectionism is not about striving to be your best, it is not about healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is about being perfect in every way. The applied psychology textbook mentioned perfectionism as one of the

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