Part Two: My Parenting
My mother did not have one specific parenting style but rather various methods she applied to different situations. If I were to look back and place a specific title on my mother’s parenting style I would call it coercion. My mother was often times not even a parent to me. My mother was a very lax parental figure and I attribute quite a bit of her parenting style to her being a single mother. By the time I had reached the third or fourth grade I had started to read and study more. I preferred to be left alone and sometimes my mother would try and prevent the solitude I craved.
I remember one time I asked for help studying for a spelling test and it did not pan out well. I somehow got talked around to going for ice cream about an hour before my bedtime. Suffice it to say we did not arrive back home for a good three hours. I had fortunately thought ahead, and studied before I asked my mother for help. The most applicable label for my mother’s parenting technique is called permissive parenting. According to The Marriage and Family Experience, “Permissive parents rely on reasoning and explanations, and make few demands that their children take on household responsibilities.” (Strong, Cohen 390). This simply means that my mother was content to allow me to learn on my …show more content…
While my mother did tend to leave me to my own devices she also used coercion and bargaining when I was difficult. She eventually turned the tables on me when she stepped back from parenting almost completely. I do not know if she ever realized it happened or if she just gave up parenting. I became what is known as a parentified child. After years of my mother not truly parenting me I took to caring for her. When she would have a clever idea such as ice cream before studying it fell to me to talk her out of it. I think that this affected me on a deeper level than I had every
My mother did not have one specific parenting style but rather various methods she applied to different situations. If I were to look back and place a specific title on my mother’s parenting style I would call it coercion. My mother was often times not even a parent to me. My mother was a very lax parental figure and I attribute quite a bit of her parenting style to her being a single mother. By the time I had reached the third or fourth grade I had started to read and study more. I preferred to be left alone and sometimes my mother would try and prevent the solitude I craved.
I remember one time I asked for help studying for a spelling test and it did not pan out well. I somehow got talked around to going for ice cream about an hour before my bedtime. Suffice it to say we did not arrive back home for a good three hours. I had fortunately thought ahead, and studied before I asked my mother for help. The most applicable label for my mother’s parenting technique is called permissive parenting. According to The Marriage and Family Experience, “Permissive parents rely on reasoning and explanations, and make few demands that their children take on household responsibilities.” (Strong, Cohen 390). This simply means that my mother was content to allow me to learn on my …show more content…
While my mother did tend to leave me to my own devices she also used coercion and bargaining when I was difficult. She eventually turned the tables on me when she stepped back from parenting almost completely. I do not know if she ever realized it happened or if she just gave up parenting. I became what is known as a parentified child. After years of my mother not truly parenting me I took to caring for her. When she would have a clever idea such as ice cream before studying it fell to me to talk her out of it. I think that this affected me on a deeper level than I had every