This is the activating event. Then you start thinking that what you have done? Maybe she is angry or upset with you. This is the beliefs of yours about the event. Afterwards, you start to feel worry about yourself, and then you think of never talking to your friend because of her behavior, these are the consequences of event. Then, you catch yourself and start to say that maybe he doesn't see me. This is dispute that you are thinking on your negative beliefs. Finally, you think you might go and talk with her. This is the effect.
DISPUTING:
Disputing is the fourth step in ABCDE model of Albert Ellis in which you know what your beliefs are. It is basically the process in which negative or irrational beliefs are changed into rational or positive beliefs by taking control of emotional functioning. (Ellis, 1994)
Disputing Irrational Beliefs: Positive beliefs are based on reality not on different demands like for love, care, success etc. Beliefs also connected itself to a person's emotions it is practiced repeatedly. Human often beliefs on false ideas and thus develop negative beliefs, but there is something that connects the belief to the emotion. Human confuse their feelings and thus start doing activities that move them towards negative or irrational beliefs.
Types of Disputing:
Types of disputing are discussed below:
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It is childish to believe that teacher don't give marks just because they don't like their students. All negative beliefs originate from "should", "must", have to", "need to" statements. To overcome these irrational beliefs, you should be closed to reality and beliefs that you are moving toward achieving your goals.
Philosophical dispute or Socratic dispute: In this type of dispute, a therapist tries to provide pleasurable thinking instead of depressed thinking and come up with a new outlook of life. Here, they change irrational or negative beliefs of their clients and asks them to test their newly formed positive beliefs and asks questions to think logically and empirically about both rational and irrational beliefs. When clients failed to give the right answer of these questions their therapists then ask more open questions and it happens till the clients learn the correct response.
For example: In the above example, firstly student learns not to get good marks because every time he thinks that teacher doesn’t like him but his therapist tell him to change his beliefs and then give test with proper preparation. After repeating this situation, the student feels that he is getting good marks then previous