& Paul, R., 2004, para. 2). In reality, I was proceeding to step 3 which is to be on the lookout for more off the wall questions. I started focusing on the questions I was asking so, I can look beneath the surface and start paying attention to the question they’re asking (Elder, L. & Paul, R., 2004, para. 3). In general, the question about his potential wife was irrelevant because their questions do not solve this problem and help them to make a better decision in the end of our conversation (Elder, L. & Paul, R., 2004, para. 3). So, as time pass, I notice she leaned forward during our conversation so, I knew she was paying attention and was looking for me to make a mistake so, I would ask for clarification before I would answer the question (Elder, L. & Paul, R., 2004, para. 3).
In short, as the conversation was coming to an end, I caught myself getting frustrated and I was beginning to unwilling listening to their views because I was already in the military so, my answers are all right and their answers were wrong (Elder, L. & Paul, R., 2004, para. 4). I realize in other to solve this situation that we need to be reasonable and I needed to think to see if their views have any merit so, I press forward and broke down my defensiveness in which I was able to hear what they were saying Elder, L. & Paul, R., 2004, para.